Mixed dating: How to ooze confidence on date number one

Mar 29, 2018

What many people do not realise is it is possible to appear confidence even if you have butterflies in your stomach. Let us paint a picture and set the tone for this article, you have met a person of another race that you are so attracted to, you have been exchanging online messages for quite some time and you have both finally arranged a date to meet. Going on a date to meet someone of another race that you bumped into online is very exciting but also nerve racking. How can you create a good impression and ooze confidence on date number one? Here are a few handy tips to follow

1. Always make sure you expect to succeed

The date does not start the moment you meet up with the person; the date starts the moment you are getting ready. To ensure you look your absolute best, you have to pick an outfit that makes you ooze confidence and feel attractive. Knowing how good you look fantastic combined with a nice aftershave (for men), nice hair cut and good cologne is a major confidence booster.

2. Know that you are all in the same boat

Realise that it is not just you who is feeling nervous about the date; chances are your date is feeling just as nervous as you are and are concerned about how things will go. Knowing each other does take time and no everyone is 100% themselves on a first date. When you have this in mind, you will feel more confidence going into your date with the special person you met.

3. Try to fake it until you make it

If you one those people who suffers from a lack of confidence especially on date, you should consider trying to think of someone you are familiar with. It can be a friend or a celebrity you idolise and think about how they act when they are in a conversation with someone and what they sound like. Mirror them and put your own little twist to it. If you are not sure about this just remember that the other person doesn’t exactly know who you are. By pretending to be confident and in control of the situation, there is a very high chance your date will think you are like that all the time.

4. Put your focus on them

Being in a date is not just a chance for you to showcase your amazing personality; it is also a chance for you to learn more about your date. Switch your attention on your date and any self doubt you had prior will disappear. Always try to have some interesting question in mind before you meet up with your date and try to not ask questions that can be answered with a “no” or “yes”. Do not take up majority of the time talking about yourself because it will make you appear as someone who loves themselves so much. Try asking your date their favourite holiday destination or what ambitions they have in life. The special you make a person, they more likely they will open up and feel relaxed in your presence.