Why it’s Harder for Black Men to Date Asian Women than White Men
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As is always the case with sensitive topics—particularly those regarding or related to race—a certain level of awareness and respect must be maintained. An open mind will avoid offending the involved parties (or entire races), and make one more perceptible to true facts or theories. At the same time, many will tow fences, without utilizing straightforward dialogue, when discussing sensitive, race-related topics. Both ineffective and useless, this type of thinking or speaking will likely result in a limited amount of reliable data and accurate conclusions.
A great example of a race-related dilemma is the obviously limited number of romantic relationships between Black men and Asian women—specifically in comparison to the number of relationships between White men and Asian women. The reasoning behind this interesting situation can be best explained in dual components—the long-term and short-term reasoning. But first, let’s take a look at some incorrect (and frankly ridiculous) theories as to why Black men have such a comparatively hard time dating Asian women. There isn’t a secret, under-the-radar rivalry between Black and Asian individuals, as some actually suggest! There also isn’t an internal conspiracy between the nations which house mainly Asian and Black individuals (most countries found in Africa and Asia, that is), as some other, entirely inaccurate individuals suggest. The true dating dilemma between Black men and Asian women is much more literal and direct—in both the short and long term.
The first component of these interracial dating difficulties is one which was established naturally, by geographic boundaries. Traditionally, the (generally) airtight immigration policies of Asia, coupled with the consistent flow (in recent, twentieth-century times) of African professionals who have left the continent for Europe or America, have left a generally large interaction gap between the two races. Further back from the twentieth century, during the horrific slavery years, black individuals weren’t generally dated freely by any different-raced individuals, and Asia had just started to interact freely with the United States (and other countries, largely); few citizens left Asia, and few foreigners took residence there.
The short-term effects of this long-term separation—however inadvertent—can be seen today through both statistics and practice. Populations in large Asian countries are mainly composed of ethnic Asians— Japan’s population is 98.5% Ethnic Japanese, China’s population is 91.51% Hans Chinese (with other, Asian ethnic groups composing much of the rest of the population), and South Korea’s population is very largely Korean as well. The same can largely be said for African countries, where the majority of individuals born in a country on the continent will live there forever, or move to a more-developed hub—somewhere in Europe or the United States—as many Asian individuals also do.
The significance of the above data goes a long way in explaining the dating dilemma between Black men and Asian women, in several ways. First, there aren’t a large number of Asians traveling to Africa, and Africans traveling to Asia; those who do leave their home countries are often economically inclined, and therefore bound for economic powerhouses like the United States, Canada, or one of several European countries. This creates a situation where Black men are likely to become romantically involved with a woman of a different race than Asian, and vice-versa; not meeting in countries where there are an abundance of Asian or Black individuals increases the chances of Black men and Asian women finding someone of a different race to date, frankly, before finding one another.
Furthermore, the long-term effects of the generally isolated (or unable to socialize) Asian and Black history may create some hesitation from each side in approaching someone of the specified other race. To be clear, this isn’t discrimination of any kind, but rather an unavoidable uncomfortableness. The two races are historically (and comparatively) unfamiliar with each other in an immediate sense, and this nervousness can be seen today, through the dating and marriage statistics. While not debilitating, becoming romantically involved with someone is intimidating enough, for most; the added pressure of appealing to an individual of a race that is traditionally unfamiliar will likely make these individuals turn to races which they are more comfortable with—their own, or white men (as both Asians and Blacks have positive and intimate experience with Whites).
As one can see, the actual reasoning behind the relative lack of Black men dating Asian women isn’t hate or discrimination-based, but rather comfort-based. The two races haven’t had a large amount of one-on-one experience with one another, and this lack of experience—along with their racially populated meeting grounds (once again, most Asians won’t travel to Africa, and vice-versa), makes it much easier and probable for Asian women to date white men, and Black men to date women of a race other than Asian.
With that said, the constant globalization of today’s society, as well as its more diverse emigration, appears to be causing individuals to change this tide. While it might be hard for Black men and Asian women to “hit-it-off”, it’s important to remember that they’re making up for lost time!
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