50 years ago, it was illegal to be with someone who is not from your race in the USA. Today, interracial relationships and marriages are increasingly gaining acceptance in the country and around the world. This, however, does not mean that interracial dating will not experience scrutiny from people who are not in interracial relationships. Other challenges that are not people related will manifest themselves in your interracial relationship too. Here are some of these complicated things about being in an interracial relationship
1. Some people will always have offensive assumptions about your relationship
People will always make offensive assumptions as to why you are dating a person from a different race. Some will be blatant enough to ask if you did it for the money, experience, or passport. As an interracial couple, you should learn to ignore these assumptions. At the end of the day, what other people say about your interracial add/reduces no value from it.
2. You have to deal with racial and cultural differences
As you deal with comments from people about your races, you have to deal with cultural differences too. It might seem like a lot of work, but when you love each other, you will find ways to work through your differences. What kind of cultural differences will you deal with in an interracial relationship? The ones that manifest themselves early are holidays, weddings, and funerals. Although black and white cultures have these practices, they conduct them differently. Not all holidays celebrated by one culture are observed by the other. Draft ways to deal with these differences early in your relationship. For instance, decide early which holidays to celebrate together and which ones not to.
3. Communication and language differences sometimes spur huge misunderstandings
When there are language differences in an interracial relationship, miscommunication may cause misunderstandings. Even when couples speak the same language, coming from different races means that one person does not fully understand colloquialisms and the breadth of idioms. Hence, you might end up making a joke that your partner does not understand. Sarcasm can be misinterpreted for seriousness which could bring a lot of arguments.
Different cultures use non-verbal language in different ways. A gesture of politeness in your partner's culture might be an insult in yours. If your partner says something that you do not understand, ask for clarification before jumping to conclusions. This way, you will avoid a lot of arguments.
4. Racist attacks will happen often
We like to imagine a world where everyone is accepted and loved regardless of their skin color. We might get there one day, but we are not there yet. This means that you and your partner will be told racial things by other people. When your race or your partner's race is attacked, it will naturally evoke emotions of anger in both of you. Working together as a team will help you get through tough comments and opinions. By building trust and confidence in each other, you will stop taking offense in racial attacks.
Interracial relationships are very important in today's society. They are a manifestation of the world we want to live in. A world where people love and embrace diversity. Being in an interracial relationship may come with several complications. However, people in these relationships should always take pride in the fact that they are bringing the world closer together.