5 Things to Consider to Get a Girl’s Attention

Oct 02, 2018

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus, right? Wrong. Men and Women are more alike than you think.

Whilst it may seem impossible to successfully grab a woman’s attention, there are five things you should consider before making your approach.

1. Check your Vibe

As you approach a girl, are you shy and withdrawn or confident and self-assured? Women love confident men. Note that this entirely different from being egotistical and cocky. If you appear afraid to approach women, they will spot this from a mile off. Even if you’ve not had the best luck with women, show that you have self-worth, abstain from self-depreciating humour, and carry confidence within yourself.

2. Common Ground

No one likes generic pink up lines. They’re crass, and every woman knows that they’ve been recycled time and time again in the hopes of success. There’s no wonder why the success rate is so low. Girls like to feel unique and special, show them that you’re approaching them for a reason by paying unique compliments or trying to start a conversation by using common ground. It is a lot easier to know If you’ve got something in common online than in if you encounter someone in a bar, but just ensure you’ve always got something to say.

3. Dialling it Back

As much as the media would have you believe how much girls like attention, they also like space. We’ve all seen the Facebook Messenger screenshots of guys endlessly messaging girls without a response. Don’t do it. If she doesn’t bite the first time, she probably won’t bite a second. If you’re in a bar, read her body language. Is she making eye contact with you? Or does she have closed body language and is trying to avoid your gaze?

4. Be Respectful

Women are constantly approached by creeps, make sure that you set yourself apart from the guys who will be requesting pictures five minutes into the chat. It’s perfectly acceptable to keep the start of a conversation entirely platonic, let them get a feel for whether they’re into you or not before you start to be suggestible or hint towards wanting more than friendship.

5. Show Interest

Everyone likes to be asked about themselves, when we’re constantly bombarded by information about someone else’s life it can quickly become draining (no matter how interesting you think you are). So, prove that you’re genuinely interested in them as a person and they’re not just a pretty face in the crowd. Stay away from the usual questions “how are you”, “what are you doing”, these questions quickly become monotonous, and it’s unlikely that you’ll find someone that wants to tell a stranger about their day. If you’ve met them online, prove that you have some common ground from what you’ve seen on their profile. If you meet them in public, it can be a little more difficult, so, get inventive and see where you can take the conversation.