5 Things to Consider When Choosing a Life Partner

Sep 28, 2018

When it comes to finding the perfect person to settle down with, the most important thing you’re going to want to consider is your own taste, needs and desires. Whilst friends and family may have their say on what you should need and want, ultimately, you’ve got to figure that out for yourself.

Of course, there are times when body chemistry intervenes, and you don’t exactly get a choice when it comes to who you settle down with, yet for single people who haven’t found that connection it’s worthwhile to have a guide when you’re looking for love. It can be confusing deciding which aspects to consider when it comes to choosing a life partner. Some say opposites attract, some people say it’s all down to your star signs, however here are the top five things you’re going to want to consider when choosing a life partner.

1. Stability

Will this person offer you a stable life? Money may not bring us happiness, yet if you’ve set your sights on someone that can’t be self-sufficient this should be an instant red flag. This is especially the case for ambitious individuals who are looking to settle down. If your partner doesn’t have the same drive for success, it’s unlikely that they will push you to be the best version of yourself.

2. Emotional Intelligence

Intelligence and emotional intelligence are entirely separate things, you’ll want to ensure that your partner has the capacity to feel empathy and see the world through your eyes, if not, prepare to be at loggerheads with your potential partner a fair amount.

3. Family History

If you meet someone and you’re getting along well, and they suddenly start to tell you how terrible their childhood or family life was, run for the hills. It may seem harsh, but this will indicate how likely they are to blame and find fault with others. Alongside the family history take note of how they refer to their ex-partners.

4. Patience and Etiquette

If you want an accurate view of what a potential partner will be like a few years down the line pay attention to how they respond to stressful situations. If you ask someone whether they’re an angry person, you’ll never get a straight answer. Instead watch how they react when they’re stuck in traffic jams, or how they talk about their colleagues. A pro tip will be to observe their behaviour to waiting staff at a restaurant or bar. If they’re rude, don’t entertain the prospect of a relationship.

5. Put Down the Glue

‘Broken people’ may seem appealing, especially to people who love to help and see others grow, but it is never another person’s responsibility to fix someone. Sure, people can be down on their luck sometimes, but for the perfect relationship you’ll want someone who lives a full life with healthy relationships with their friends and family. Not all of us work our perfect jobs, or have everything we want out of life, yet, you’ll want to ensure that something in your potential partner’s life other than yourself that they’re passionate about.