5 Signs You’re Probably Too Comfortable In Your Interracial Relationship

Sep 03, 2018

Have you taken time to find the right person? You’ve carefully spent time searching for dates. You may have had to go on dozens of dates, before you found someone that you wanted to make a commitment with. The two of you may be from differing races, cultures, and even religions. These can be some of the best relationships to have. As you learn more about each other, you feel more excited and happy. Perhaps you aren’t even sure what to expect around the corner.

Is it possible that you’re becoming too comfortable in your interracial relationship? If so, that’s a great sign! It may mean that it’s time to take your relationship to the next level.

Here are 5 signs that you’re way too comfortable in your interracial relationship.

1. You know what to bring. If there’s a special family religious celebration ahead that you’ve been invited to, you don’t blink. You already know exactly what types of foods to prepare for the big meal without being asked. You also know what’s suitable and what isn’t. You know who should be bringing what so you don’t step on any toes in the family.

2. You understand the formalities. You already know to take your shoes off and bathe your feet, or you know that a handshake is in order. You understand that no one starts eating until the senior person does first. You may know that it’s impolite to do certain things at the dinner table, or that it’s polite to do other things. You don’t have your S.O. having to coach your every step.

3. You’re on automatic. You don’t need your loved one to tell you what to do, you already know what to do. You can start preparing meals, clean and tidy up, and get ready for activities or events. You pull your own weight when doing tasks and chores around the house. You aren’t “helping” out, you’re doing your share of the work.

4. You have pet names. You’ve given each other pet names. These pet names may be silly and they’ll only make sense to the both of you. They may embarrass or horrify your friends or family, but you don’t care.

5. You stop noticing skin color. At some point, you stop noticing a person’s skin color when you first meet them. When you describe people, you describe their skills and their personality. In your eyes, everyone is the same.

There can be many more signs that you’re comfortable in your interracial relationship. The process may be gradual. At first you’re nervous and worried what others will say. Then, you reach the point where you don’t even care anymore. You can’t control what others think or say about you, you can only control your own happy and positive thoughts.

Once you reach this comfortable stage in your relationship, you’ll then be ready for the next step—moving in, engagement, or even marriage!