5 Reasons to Stop Contacting Your Ex

Aug 25, 2018

Are you still contacting your ex? Chances are they’re doing the same. It can be an ever-revolving door of communication. But unless you work with them or have kids with them, there is no need to keep in touch. Even better, sever all communication with them at once.

Here are 5 reasons you should stop contacting your ex.

1. They’re just being polite. Your ex may also want to stop hearing from you again, but instead of telling you so, they are trying to remain polite. They don’t want to be seen as a rude or a bad person, so for now, they’re humoring you. But if you sever all contact, chances are that would really make them happy.

2. You’ll be happier. It’s pointless contacting your ex. You need to consider your reasons. Are you doing it out of habit, or are you doing it in hopes that you’ll get back together? But if you both have truly moved on then there is no reason to continue to do so. When you stop, you’ll discover how a burden is lifted from your mind and how much happier you feel.

3. It’s disrespectful to your new love. Your new love doesn’t want to hear you talking to you ex. They may not understand why you’re doing it. You may not even understand why you’re doing it. They may think that you’re trying to cheat on them. It can create a lot of unease and distrust in a relationship when you contact your ex.

4. It keeps you both from moving on. Even if neither of you has started a new relationship, it can keep both of you from moving on. Perhaps there’s that small chance you’ll get back together. But then, what is the point? You fought and yelled at each other. Is that how you want the rest of your life to go? It’s time to completely sever the relationship so that you both can start anew.

5. You’re wasting your time. If you took that time that you currently now spend thinking about your ex or talking to them on the telephone, and instead spent it doing something else, you can free up a whole lot of time. Have you ever wanted to learn how to ski, or how to knit, or spend time skydiving? Well, now here’s your chance. You can expend all that energy instead on doing things that you’ve really wanted to do your entire life. Why continue to waste your time on someone who doesn’t care for you? It’s pointless. If you need an extra push, create a list of all the things you’ve always wanted to do, but never had the time. Then, get on a dating site and find dates so you have a companion to do these cool things with!

Chances are that you’re going to be able to think up more than 5 reasons to never contact your ex again. Now that you know the goal you can refocus your efforts to have a happy and more fulfilling dating life!