How to Stop Dating Bad Boys?

Jul 16, 2018

Almost all women have dated bad boys at some point in their lives. Dating bad boys may be natural when you’re a younger woman, but do you really want to continue doing that as you get older? A bad boy can be defined as a guy who won’t commit, who has multiple partners, has to borrow money from you (that he never repays), and who may be verbally or physically abusive. While some of this behaviour you can tolerate when you’re younger, once you’re past the age of 25 you should be looking for some good men.

So, how to focus on dating only good men and toss the losers to the side?

1. Stop picking up guys in clubs.

It’s okay to go out with the girls to the local bar for drinks, but not okay to ignore them while you hit on guys. Focus on your friends instead. Find better locations to pick up guys, such as the local museum or grocery store.

2. Focus on the nice ones.

Just how do you know a guy isn’t a jerk? When he looks you in the eyes and smiles! This is the guy who listens when you speak and doesn’t cut you off or ignore you. This is the guy who automatically offers to pay when you’re at the restaurant or movie theatre (without excuses). He’s the guy who always remembers every occasion, even bringing you Easter or Fourth of July gifts.

3. Clear your contacts.

When you’re lonely it can be tempting to call that guy who lives down the alley. Instead, go through your contacts and delete all the bad boys. If you have a physical address book, rip those contacts out of your book too. Delete their email addresses and toss or delete any photographs you have of them. Go as far as to block their phone numbers.

4. Feelings are temporary.

Do you remember your first love? You may even know him today. You’ve realized that your feelings didn’t match up with his feelings, and you feel stupid about it now. Even better, he’s still a jerk today and you’re glad that you’re no longer with him. Remember that feelings for someone can be temporary. What you’re looking for is your one true love, with someone who also shares those same feelings right back.

5. Focus on what you really want.

If you want to meet a nice guy, settle down, and have kids, then make that’s your main focus. You can’t change the bad guys. They’ll be on the hunt for the next woman. Why waste your time? If you must, write down your feelings and goals in a journal. Or, make a big poster that says you want to be married by age X and post it on your fridge!

If you want to stop dating bad boys, then it ends with you. It’s up to you to correct your behaviour and focus on being an adult. Now that you’ve refocussed your goals, you can truly find an amazing partner!