I'm A Black Women Who Likes White Men It Doesn't Mean I Don't Like My Own Race.

Feb 20, 2018

We often have this notion that we should date a man in our own race. Black people are for black people, Americans for Americans, Asians for Asians, but with today's growing society and globalization, things impossible can become possible.

I grew up in the United States but my parents are from South Africa. Being a native of African Continent, they have black skin so do I. I never experience discrimination since a lot of my classmates are also black just like me. I met this guy and let's just call him Jim. I met Jim during my last year in middle school. He has this blue eyes, blonde hair and a good built for a middle school student. He is everyone's dream guy. I am not the type of girl that makes move to get noticed by a boy but Jim is different. I want to see him everyday and I became competitive when I learned that someone liked him as well. Well, that is not new since he is so handsome.

I eventually got tired (and hurt) when he had a girlfriend. That's when I said stop to myself. I reached high school and some black men courted me. I don't know why but Jim became my standard of a handsome guy. A white, blue eyed, blonde American guy. I met Matt. Matt is not actually American but a British. At first I am laughing at his accent because he still has a strong British accent (since he is from Ireland) and from that, I fell in love with him and he admitted that he likes me as well.

We dated for three months before we realized that everything is getting serious. So, I introduced him to my parents. I thought that they like him because they give him smiles and even entertained him while he is in our house, but when he left my parents asked me these question

And I am shocked. Things are entering my mind like, where did these questions came from? Matt and I dated for two years before we called it quits.

After him, I dated two more white guys and a black half American-African. With all my previous exes, my parents are happy with the black American I dated. Then I asked them, why do they favor him more that my previous exes? and they said it's because of my color.

You see, this is what is wrong with our society. We say that racial discrimination is lessen especially with love, but we people still limits ourselves with it. With all my previous interracial relationship, I've learned that I like white men but I still love my race.

My race doesn't define whom should I love, because men should be the one who will protect me and not judge me by my color or race.

Right now, Matt and I met again and tried it once more. And it worked. We are now getting married and I explained to my parents that we are getting married and race doesn't have anything to do with it.