10 things to never say to someone in an interracial relationship.

Feb 15, 2018

There are things you should never say to someone in an interracial relationship, they include:

• 1. " What did your parents say about the relationship?" Our parents being older and at times viewed as old school does not necessarily mean that they disapprove mixed race couples. This sounds as an insult to the couple, always avoid asking or saying that, since not everyone is against it.
• 2. "You guys are dating like seriously?" It is like trying to portray that it is illegal for interracial couples to date. This is looking at the relationship in a racial angle. We are two individuals who have a lot in common and also love each other. Some people think that asking in such a way is normal, not it is not.
• 3. "How you met must be an interesting story" The story about how we met is the same as other couples, but ours might be in different setting and situation. The notion that interracial couples love stories are forbidden is misguided and not true. This kind of thinking that mixed race couples have amazing tales to tell about how they met , the more we will show the society that they are different compared to other couples of the same race. That is the kind of thinking we should throw in the bin.
• 4 "Do you have a problem dating people of your own race?" Many people ask that. This is portraying that being involved in interracial relationship and romance is not a normal thing to do,
• 5. "So what race will your kids identify with?" Just shut up and never ask that. Our society is designed that once mixed race couples have kids, then they will lose identity which is not the case. We should move out of this racial and ethnic box.
• 6. "I wonder how it is like to date someone from another race". You will be surprised that individuals from different races have a lot in common in terms of goals, personal traits and also visions.
• 7. "What did you see in him?" Like seriously? This is trying to say that there is little or nothing that can make you attracted to a person from a different race. There is a lot you can admire from people of a different race.
• 8."You are so brave, as for me it is hard". If it is hard for you, then it does not mean it is hard for everyone. Anyway it is not hard being in an interracial relationship.
• 9. "Aren't you worried about what people will say?" Not everyone has a problem with mixed race relationships. Racial stereotypes are designed to show that individuals have a problem with interracial couples.
• 10." How will you raise your kids?" Does it mean dating from another race will make me raise my kids differently? I will raise my kids in a normal way, no need to adjust or learn how to raise them.