LittleDarlin, may I extend a warm welcome to the hallways of IRM? It's a wonderful place to find out many things and some of them might just relate to your post.
You might want to add a bit more detail to the use of your term "fantasy", as it can be misleading in many ways. Is it something you are just wanting to "try" for the fun of it or are you seeking because you really want to know what these men are all about? And, I'm not just talking about black men in general.
Oh yes, there will be those that would be more than happy to "fulfill that fantasy" and then leave you "high and dry" when they've gotten what they wanted.
Only you can determine what your real intentions are and you might want to clarify that as you walk these hallways.
I beleive that's the wonderful opportunity the world wide web provides. It allows a large world full of various personalities to reach out and connect. My "Cali" mentality and Ohio backdrop do not vibe, but I can meet like-minded ladies that are looking for me, too. Now if I could connect with that girl...
I'm sure you have seen us and just haven't realized it. We are out here i assure you, and we are waiting for a person to connect with no matter the color of their skin or nationality. Now my question would be where are the good black men you seem to be as elusive as the loch ness monster to me. lol Check out my profile and you can see your elusive creaure. lol
What is the topic again. I lived in California and it's an amazing place. WOnderful weather and great people that makes for and exciting and intersting environment. When you have time drop me a line or two and we can discuss your topic.