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  • View author's info Author Posted on Oct 28, 2005 at 12:10 PM


    i'm an older female and i'm told that i should look for an older male,ok. the problem is older males don't interest me all that much. they make me feel old. i want a man that can help me feel alive. is that understandable?
    i'm an older female and i'm told that i should look for an older male,ok. the problem is older males don't interest me all that much. they make me feel old. i want a man that can help me feel alive. is that understandable?
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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 10, 2016 at 02:17 AM


    It's important to me I'm just not attracted to men in their 30s 40s, I need a men who knows how to give good massages loves gift giving and has no problem holding hands.  Most of the younger ones come with baby momma drama.

  • View author's info Posted on Sep 04, 2008 at 02:12 PM


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    I wouldn't think age would or should not be a problem. Bit...for me, I have a problem, if, he's 10 or more years younger than me. I don't want to feel like I gotta teach him stuff, you know. There is a plus side though...those younger men can keep up with your sexual needs and wants. ;)


    Symple: I assume you are aware of new advances in physiological enhancement by chemical means. I am not talking just about Viagra either. A man can be sexually heroic for far longer than ever before. In fact the best and most prolific lovers may well be past 40... they have the ability to sustain.
  • View author's info Posted on Sep 02, 2008 at 04:50 PM


    I wouldn't think age would or should not be a problem. Bit...for me, I have a problem, if, he's 10 or more years younger than me. I don't want to feel like I gotta teach him stuff, you know. There is a plus side though...those younger men can keep up with your sexual needs and wants. ;)
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 24, 2008 at 12:09 AM


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    Let's just say i wouldn't date a guy who's 40 OR a guy who was 27 if his maturity level were that of a 19 year old.
    It all boils down to maturity.




    I agree totally. I rarely pay attention to a person's age; its their personality I'm interested in and, if they are too immature, that will become apparent pretty quickly.
  • View author's info Posted on Apr 03, 2007 at 06:55 PM


    Let's just say i wouldn't date a guy who's 40 OR a guy who was 27 if his maturity level were that of a 19 year old.
    It all boils down to maturity.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 22, 2006 at 03:25 PM


    scorpiolove write:
    It really isn't about age...it is about stages in life. You can be the same age as someone and be in totally different stages in life. if you find someone who you are compatible with and you share the same goals, dreams and desires go for it!!

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    I completely agree. It's unfortunate though, because there is a natural double standard when it comes to women dating younger men. A man can date a woman 10 years his junior and no one blinks an eye, but the minute a woman merely entertains the thought of dating someone even 2 years younger, many wonder if she's acting as a mother figure.

    I've said it once and I will say it again, I don't rob cradles, I rock 'em. ; )
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 08, 2006 at 11:40 AM


    My mom and my step dad were 29 years apart and I have to tell ya I personally can't do the may/december relationship. My step brothers and sisters resented the whole thing and he had a strained relationship with them. Then to top it off they had my little brother and now my dad is to old to do anything with the boy, and leaves it up to me. (My mom has passed and my dad is now 76).
    Now I love my brother dearly but I often wonder when a man is 62 and still making babies, does he think 10-20 years ahead on how this may affect the child and stuff? Sorry if I offended anyone but the subject hit home for me.
    As far as a younger guy is concerned...if you can't at least get into the bar legally with me, then I wouldn't pursue that relationship lol. I'm sure there are some mature 21 year olds out there but they'd have to jump through a ring of fire to prove that to me!
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 07, 2006 at 04:05 PM


    locura2000 write:
    i'm an older female and i'm told that i should look for an older male,ok. the problem is older males don't interest me all that much. they make me feel old. i want a man that can help me feel alive. is that understandable?

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    nobody can make you 'feel alive' unless you're in need of CPR or on life support.... the 'feel' is within you... vibrancy, energy, joie de vivre is 'soulful'.... as in lol.... so full....
    you reap what you sow...
  • View author's info Posted on Nov 05, 2006 at 05:03 AM


    Absolutely. Funny how we go through stages in our lives. I was always attracted to older men from the time i started dating. Seems as if I hit 30 and I just wanted someone my age or younger. It didn't seem to work out too well at first, but I have realized as amny people should...that age doesn't matter. My ex is 42 and he cannot carry an intelligent conversation to save his life, but my last relationship lasted 4 1/2 years with a man 7 years yonger than me. We had a wonderful relationship, but as time would have it bad choices killed the bond. I have however met someone here that is quite a bit younger than myself, but he is very mature, intelligent and can carry a descent conversation. Age doesn't matter it's all the other things, character qualities that do however matter in determining the success of a relationship.
  • View author's info Posted on Oct 17, 2006 at 07:59 AM


    locura2000 write:
    i'm an older female and i'm told that i should look for an older male,ok. the problem is older males don't interest me all that much. they make me feel old. i want a man that can help me feel alive. is that understandable?

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    I'm an 'older' male and ever since i got out of high school I've always gone out with 'older' women and was always told that i should be going out with younger women or women 'my age'.....wellllllll, i finally decided to take their advice at 45. so from then on i started going out with women my age or younger.....
    would you believe that NO ONE has suggested that i go out with 'older women' since then...???

    but it doesn't stop me from looking....

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  • View author's info Posted on Feb 11, 2006 at 09:40 PM


    It really isn't about age...it is about stages in life. You can be the same age as someone and be in totally different stages in life. if you find someone who you are compatible with and you share the same goals, dreams and desires go for it!!
  • View author's info Posted on Feb 08, 2006 at 06:01 PM


    thomas1546 write:
    Wiseflower, you sure are wise and attractive. I would love to chat with you.

    thanks thomas for the compliment, if it's for friendship only ...no problems
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 31, 2006 at 07:06 PM


    There's nothing wrong with your preferences. Go for it. My ex was 9 years younger than me and everyone thought he was older. You're as young as you feel & I feel like a twenty year old!

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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 23, 2006 at 11:31 PM


    I've noticed a lot of people, both male and female, like jailbait. Like the other day, I went to the movies with some friends and we were waiting in line. There was this guy in his late 40s eyeing the girl right in front of us. She must have been 14, tops.

    But that's something I notice quite often when I follow the lustful regard of people out there: their objects of interest are often much younger than themselves, and not always of legal age. It applies to women as well, but men are the most common culprits in what respects jailbait.

    Makes you wonder.
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 22, 2006 at 03:52 PM


    Hello,You're not wrong at all sweetheart.I'm 7 years older than my boyfriend,And I'll have to tell you that I am not into older guys (hope I don't offend anyone)I like'em young not going to jail young but legal to do things. (lol)
  • View author's info Posted on Jan 05, 2006 at 02:18 PM


    Living in Los Angeles eliminates me from the ability to state what would be considered normal.

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  • View author's info Posted on Jan 05, 2006 at 08:36 AM


    indycapricorn write:
    I think we all agree that age is a state of mind, but for me give me that state with someone say, 35-40.


    I feel ya lady indy. I would have not much in common with a man younger than say 39ish. And I don't prefer much older men than myself either. We have to have in common life experiences that a younger man probably wouldn't have experienced to the degree that I have. Some younger men are more mature than most, but still he couldn't relate to having grown children and that's a huge part of who I am. Just one expample.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 29, 2005 at 10:48 AM


    I think we all agree that age is a state of mind, but for me give me that state with someone say, 35-40.
  • View author's info Posted on Dec 27, 2005 at 06:06 PM


    EbonyRose143 write:
    No one should place a limit on age, it is only a state of the mind.

    that's true ..to certain degree ...however i doubt at my age of 28 ..i will find a guy at age 19 to be on the same level as me .. i really believe that u need to go through some life experiences that's why if at age 50 ... i would have no problem dating a guy age 40 and up....he would a least have some life experiences, sowed his oats etc. etc.....but at 28 ... there are things that a 50 year old man would not get and vice versa....my cousin is 60 and his girlfriend is 23 ...lets just say that there's tension now ... he does not look it but she's starting to see it...it may last who knows but i think that every indivdual needs to have that life experience and an individual needs to have that time period to grow...but then again there are quite a few mature 20ish individuals ...but that is just the way i feel.
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