Sweetheart, I have wondered the same since I was a kid but I came from the home of the KKK so that just wasn't allowed...not in public anyway.
However, what I have started doing is if I see something I can compliment the man on then I immediately say so...no matter what or who is around. If I sense they are ok to continue talking then I try to find something comfortable to get them to keep talking.
I'm an Aries so I'm a go getter and the older I've gotten and wiser I have just come to terms that if I want to talk to someone of another race then I need to speak up...NOTHING BEATS A FAIRLURE BUT A TRY!
I too have the same problem. Here in Utah but not in Florida where I originally moved from. Thinking about relocation out of Utah and thinking of Colorado. Men in Utah seem to want to send endless emails or texts.....Wish I could meet someone confident and not approach me with any perconceived ideas.
Most white men that are attracted to black females are intimidated. Especially a black woman that's fine and has a figure. There can be a few things that make up for that: does she like white men, being rejected, not sure if he can put it down, or if he's big enough. Some don't have the confidence. Whatever the case maybe. If you see a white man your interested in be the aggressor. If your to nervous ill talk to ya. 😊