So, it really all comes down to individual preference. Think about it, prior to the internet and even now, how would anyone know that on either side black or white, there would be genuine interest in engaging in relationships? Folks have a general tendency to maintain relationships with their own kind.
When one has a genuine interest in dating/relationships outside their own ethnicity or race, you'd better have a strong fortitude because dating/relationships are difficult enough to establish without rejection. None of us knows who might be interested in establishing relationships with another race or ethnicity and so the possibility of outright rejection is strong.
Frankly, I am surprised and inspired by the number of people on this site who have put themselves out there and shown this interest.
I want to flirt with white guys but then I feel they're looking at me weird I'm told I look mean. Most times I am just in deep thought. But I find confidence in flrting when I drive Lyft sometimes. Easier to talk. Every where else I tend to shy up.
I love beautiful black women. I'm having the same problem... Most black ladies think I'm joking or something, but I'm most assuredly not. I still have not been able to to date an African American woman, but have dated 3 gorgeous African women. There is a huge difference. Don't decieve yourself. One lady from Nigeria and 2 others from Kenya
Dont know if you still patronize this site in order to be notified of this response but someone may read it...I have always preferred black girls from my earliest recognition of desire. the looks i get and comments are mostly in dislike of the "ghetto attitude". I honestly dont care for it myself and that is the main reason Im on here instead of just asking out a woman I meet locally.
Mishy, Since you asked, I'll give you some advice for what it is worth. I would not call you oblivious, but there are some things that some women do not see. It may (or may not) help you if I point them out.
Flirty "techniques" are likely pretentious things guys say/do to impress you. I'm generalizing, but their goals are likely short term and physical in nature. They are concerned about there needs/desires, not necessarily about you. Most of us do it to some extent especially when we are young. Some don't grow out of it, some are worse than others. To me, if it is a "technique" it's fake and I would advise you to see through it. If a guy is aggressive, run.
A gentleman will approach you with an interest in you and a hope to get to know you. He will ask you about yourself and say little about himself, though honestly answer questions you might ask about him. He won't exaggerate or aim to impress. He'll be himself since his goals are long term and lies will not hold up over time. He may be confident, but not aggressive, and will leave it to you to form an opinion, just as he will form an opinion about you. If those don't match you're friends, if they do, maybe more.
In simple terms, if a guy talks about himself, boasts, tells you about his car, and his money, he's using "techniques" and will likely use you. If he asks about what is important to you, doesn't brag, let's you find out about him, his interest is genuine. Too many woman buy the former and don't recognize the latter. I hope I may have helped you reverse that (if you even see this). Best.
Yes they are, and actually most of them are. There's not a white guy alive that din't find Halle Berry attractive, and believe me the vast majority of white guys who see/meet you, Livi_loo, are attracted. Because.... you are attractive. Basically what's going on is there are obstacles of uncommonness, uncertainty, and social BS.
It is changing, but will take some time. Beauty is not a color. People are people. That will win out.
I actually prefer (if that's the right word) black women. I, personally, just find it very hard these days to ask out/begin chatting etc. to women I am attracted to, in general. Hence, I also like confident women, who aren't afraid to 'make the first move' as it were.
It's not a race thing, it's just lack of confidence.... I think they just have an expectation that you're going to snub them. I chat every interesting female up, any situation....I love using a skilled mouth-piece....its so much fun for both parties involved. And as far as not enough white boys with a sack, they hang back and miss out.....I'm going to take up all the slack they leave, lmao! If I could have 200 Ladies I would.
I agree with some of the comments but here's what I've found. I love Black women, not because of looks, skin color, or any of that. There is a certain inner confidence and strength that black women have inside them. It's a solid firmness COMBINED WITH a softness and gentleness towards the people they care about and love. It's been a common thing I've observed among all the black women in my life that were past relationships, friends, coworkers and casual acquaintances. A lot of times that hardness and firmness is misinterpreted. I did at first. But once you realize that the hardness is actually enveloped with an unequalled softness and gentleness, you get drawn in. So to answer your question about "why aren't white men into black women?" I feel like the answer is that they are subconsciously intimidated by them and allow their own insecurities keep them from flirting and hitting on women that they are actually attracted to. They don't realize that behind that hard exterior is something special and worth the effort to get to
Okay.. have read all of the comments and they are interesting to say the least. I am a white guy and I definitely have a preference for black/mixed women.
I think the answer to why a lot of white men don't seem to date black women is not necessarily racism but rather xenophobia. It is their own insecurity and fear of perceived difference that prevents them from dating outside their own skin colour.
Also there is perhaps another reason less spoken about, that is, black men are widely believed to be well endowed by white men... perhaps the white men do not think they would measure up in a black woman's eyes?