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Posted on Wed, Aug 09, 2006 12:20 AM

This is a trying question for me. I am a very successful business woman. My previous boyfriends and my exhusband didnt have a problem in the begining, however it became a huge problem later. Just wondering everyones thoughts on how to deal with this!


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Posted on Tue, Jan 08, 2008 01:34 PM

The fact that you say men are intmidated by you says a lot. You may want to ask men what their first impression is of you. Do you come across like Martha Stewart or Hillary Clinton? Or, do are you more lady like? Most men don't look at Martha and Hillary and say, "I want a woman like that".


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Posted on Sun, Dec 03, 2006 05:28 AM

It all depends on HOW you define sucess. Money? possessions? If so, that is shallow. Men who are intimitated by ANY woman are low in self esteem. A woman can be a sucessful hairdresser,waitress,homemaker. One doesn't have to be an executive or CEO to be a success. If you define success in material belongings you have quite alot to learn . Success is mental. Get off your high horse


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Posted on Sun, Dec 03, 2006 03:44 AM


Why are men intimidated by successful women?
allow me to qualify and quantify the questionne..... Why are SOME men intimidated...... lol..... then there are those who ARE irritated by successful women..... and while i am at it..... let us keep in mind that the Sacraments, Testaments, Gospel, Scriptures, Holy Scrolls were created and put into writing by men regardless of who moved them to hunch over the tables to do so.....at a time when the women were virtually a possession and a partner in grime, so to say, as opposed to a living partnership...... that's okay honey, you go get the perks and stock options, i'll do the dishes and the laundry..... What...!!! we're going to the Riviera next week...... wow...!!!not the one in Vegas...??? more laundry please.....


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Posted on Wed, Nov 29, 2006 06:33 AM

I would love to meet a successful woman who didn't care that I earned less than she did, my job is important but the pay sucks:-] however most "successful" woman I have met are also workacholics and can't find time enough for love. If you are willing to put as much time into a relationship as you do your job, you may find it will work.


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Posted on Wed, Nov 29, 2006 05:21 AM

Personally I've always told people to be themselves. I only like people who are themselves. I don't like people who mimic others or try to be something that they're not. But success can be intimidating. It doesn't matter really what sex you are. Just the feeling that your partner is better than you. And your not good enough. Instead of feeling equal you feel inadequate. Constantly feeling this way in any relationship will wear on you. After a while you just can't live with it.


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Posted on Sun, Nov 26, 2006 06:44 PM

I've read it many times Roderick and what strikes me the most? SHE works herself to the bone from line 10 to 31 YET "HE is respected at the city gate where HE takes his seat among the elders of the land." I'll bet SHE can't take a seat because she is too busy slaving away getting refreshments for the gents. It's no bloody wonder I struggle to find faith. Oh, and EXCUUUUUSE ME Mr. Heritage but where exactly is a p*nis required to provide protection, security,(I get those from my dog and she's a female), strength, reassurance, confidence(men are generally good at stripping you of these) ,decisiveness, leadership and most importantly spiritual leadership and guidance. (If men were any good at these...I WOULD HAVE FAITH AND CONVICTION BY NOW WOULDN'T I!!!!!!)


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Posted on Fri, Nov 24, 2006 07:41 PM

I think Arsenal said it best, it all depends on how u are projecting yourself, but i'm quite certain that there are some males who feel intimidated by a woman's success, men like heritage perhaps!!! if you have a strict definition of what a woman roles should be, wouldn't it be a problematic relationship if the woman you meet does not conform to those roles? first i need to deal with skin colour and now ancient gender roles ...are we moving forward or taking two steps back....yikes


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Posted on Fri, Nov 24, 2006 07:14 PM

Heritagemi69, I couldn't agree more. As a society we've lost focus on roles. Women and men have separate, but, equal roles and God deamed them both necessary for a family to exist. Sarah put your gun back on safe. Noone is calling a woman's role any less important than a man's role or trying to keep a woman down. Problem is so many "enlightened women" have tried to downplay and minimize traditional female roles. The result is the subject of the topic, Strife between people who must live in harmony in order to survive. Women competing with men for the sake of being equal and men who nolonger take responsibility to be men and a lot of single parents. A secure woman would never think a man could determine her value based on income, occupation or status in society. Her worth is determined by the pride of her own accomplishments. Sarah, please read Proverbs 31: A Virtuous Wife.


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Posted on Fri, Oct 06, 2006 06:08 PM


American women try to cross boundaries, meant to be occupied by men. There are roles that can ONLY be fulfilled by MEN. As there are also roles that can only be fulfilled by WOMEN. We no longer respect these boundaries, hence we have the problems we have today in relationships.
OHHHHHHHHHHH i hope these walls are reinforced on this one...... i know of only one thing a woman can do that a man can't..... SHE'S HAVIN' MY BABY!!!!!!!! as far as Adam & Eve in the GoE are concerned what He actually asked Adam was: 'What do you think of my Creation...???' in response Adam said...... ohhhhhh double click the graphic.....

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Posted on Fri, Oct 06, 2006 04:49 AM

"I don't think " encroaching on their terrain as alpha male and provider" is valid. A woman can and will never be an alpha male, an alpha female maybe, but never an alpha male. The word provider, implies much more than bringing home a larger paycheck, much more. A man provides protection, security, strenghth, reassurance, confidence,decisiveness, leadership and most importantly spiritual leadership and guidance. " heritagemi69 - If this statement you make is a fact, then why is it that the overwhelming majority of people in this country living in or below the poverty line are in households with children there headed by women. Check the last census statistics. I don't care how you look at it: by town, city, state, or the nation, the overwhelming majority in poverty are female head of households with children under 18 living there. They are in the shape they're in because the men who fathered their children aren't doing the providing, protecting, guiding, etc. Why aren't these men taken to task for not performing their "role". According to you, they would be taking care of their families. Those women for the most part didn't intend to raise children alone, but found themselves forced to. Some of them use their inherent strength to educate themselves, work, and raise their children all at the same time. Some of these very women go into business for themselves and run their own companies. They did it because they GOT NO SUPPORT from the ex partner. Maybe those men might know what their roles are, but they sure as heck aren't sticking to them. Many of these men are the very ones that have problems with successful women. Hmmmmmmmmm, could it be a guilty conscience?


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Posted on Fri, Oct 06, 2006 04:48 AM

"I don't think " encroaching on their terrain as alpha male and provider" is valid. A woman can and will never be an alpha male, an alpha female maybe, but never an alpha male. The word provider, implies much more than bringing home a larger paycheck, much more. A man provides protection, security, strenghth, reassurance, confidence,decisiveness, leadership and most importantly spiritual leadership and guidance. " heritagemi69 - If this statement you make is a fact, then why is it that the overwhelming majority of people in this country living in or below the poverty line are in households with children there headed by women. Check the last census statistics. I don't care how you look at it: by town, city, state, or the nation, the overwhelming majority in poverty are female head of households with children under 18 living there. They are in the shape they're in because the men who fathered their children aren't doing the providing, protecting, guiding, etc. Why aren't these men taken to task for not performing their "role". According to you, they would be taking care of their families. Those women for the most part didn't intend to raise children alone, but found themselves forced to. Some of them use their inherent strength to educate themselves, work, and raise their children all at the same time. Some of these very women go into business for themselves and run their own companies. They did it because they GOT NO SUPPORT from the ex partner. Maybe those men might know what their roles are, but they sure as heck aren't sticking to them. Many of these men are the very ones that have problems with successful women. Hmmmmmmmmm, could it be a guilty conscience?


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Posted on Wed, Oct 04, 2006 09:07 AM

Part of the reason why society is sinking Mr. Heritage, is because "gentlemen" such as yourself are determined to keep women one step below yourself rather than beside you where we belong.


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Posted on Tue, Oct 03, 2006 06:46 PM

@anewworld, I think the burden of the health of a relationship falls equally on both parties involved...this is precisely what I mean by men and women knowing their gender roles. American women try to cross boundaries, meant to be occupied by men. There are roles that can ONLY be fulfilled by MEN. As there are also roles that can only be fulfilled by WOMEN. We no longer respect these boundaries, hence we have the problems we have today in relationships. I don't think " encroaching on their terrain as alpha male and provider" is valid. A woman can and will never be an alpha male, an alpha female maybe, but never an alpha male. The word provider, implies much more than bringing home a larger paycheck, much more. A man provides protection, security, strenghth, reassurance, confidence,decisiveness, leadership and most importantly spiritual leadership and guidance. When eve ate that apple in the garden, God didn't ask Eve what she did, he asked Adam. He held the man accountable, hence society does the same. I commend women for being as strong as they are and for continuing to advance themselves, educationally and firmly establishing themselves as respected leaders. There are many great women throughout history who have led Army's and corporations...successfully might I add. However, knowing when to be a woman is key and unfortunately, most American women have forgotten what it is to be a woman. women are not weak by any means, but they are indeed, by design, the weaker gender. The success of most, if not all of the women on this planet (financial) was given to them by a man...lest you forget who is the captain of this ship. Even if it is sinking...rapidly


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Posted on Tue, Oct 03, 2006 09:09 AM


I actually said in my previous post: But hey, we can handle it. We're not the "weaker gender". LOL
more fun being the 'weekly' gender or the 'gender of the month'....and even better when you stay with the same 'unit'..........


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Posted on Tue, Oct 03, 2006 08:00 AM

For the most part, I don't think men are intimidated by successful women..........for those men that are...................most likely they are intimidated by all women in general.......raised in an all boy family, old fashioned rules, good ole boy attitude............reasons don't really matter............point is........I walk.....wide, wide circles around these dudes..........too much insecurity..........theys don't want a woman, they want a ma or a therapist............and we are on way too different wave lengths................I want the same but different, ie. your the man and I'm the woman...........but if you treat me disrespectfully...............I'll cut you off at the knees.


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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 09:53 PM

probably 'cause they were having a tuff time relating to their female bosses............


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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 08:57 AM

I don't think we are intimidated...half the guys I work with have wives that make way more money than they do...They think its great because they can still keep their fun job and not have to worry that the bills won't get paid.


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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 08:48 AM

I actually said in my previous post: But hey, we can handle it. We're not the "weaker gender". LOL


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Posted on Mon, Oct 02, 2006 02:25 AM

Let's face it; we're encroaching on their terrain as alpha male and provider. It messes with their psyches subconsciously. So what would be the harm in giving them a little lagniappe (something extra) to soothe their souls? Just let him know what he does for you that absolutely no one else can. It doesn't take much; they just need to know that they're special to you. We get so caught up in the same issues that they do professionally that we sometimes forget about their very human needs. The burden of the health of a relationship more often than not falls on the woman. But hey, we can handle it. LOL


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