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Posted on Dec 28, 2014 at 11:25 AM

this is funny, BUT, as a nice guy, i can attest that it's true. people say that i'm really attractive, however, i can't talk to women because i WAY too nice! It, actually, cracks me up, it really does. nice guys don't ALWAYS finish last, but, in most cases, we do. which is probably why i can't even get a response on a dating site. smdh lol i going for a run, nice guys, have a nice day.


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Posted on Dec 28, 2014 at 02:07 AM

 Guess I'll put in my half century's worth. Started out being a nice guy like my mother said. It NEVER did me any good. Better to just be yourself. Every guy has at least a couple of "bad" habits. If you don't have any get a couple. No matter what stick with them. Smoking,drinking colorful language whatever. You will be better off holding your ground than giving ground too fast. Something to think about.....


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Posted on Dec 23, 2014 at 01:03 AM

Personally I have never been the type of woman to be attracted to "bad boys" even though people stereotype me as that type of person based on my looks. To me each person is different and if they have a personality that doesn't scream tough or strong doesn't automatically mean to me they are not a good partner.


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Posted on Dec 10, 2014 at 04:38 PM

lol,,,,, Fahalahahaha


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Posted on Nov 03, 2014 at 10:38 AM

Quoting author:

If you feel like you've been nice but she's still not interested, it's probably because there just isn't chemistry. The "bad boys" might show a lot of confidence and that can be attractive, but i for one do appreciate a nice guy. If the nice guy has a personality that mixes together with mine and i find him attractive, i am all for being loved and doted on as much as he wants. Maybe if the man is being too "nice" (too careful not to appear offensive or forward), he's not leading with his romantic, flirty side enough, which means the conversation ends up being way too casual and the possible sexual chemistry just withers away. 


Yes, chemistry is vital in any relationship, but it's important to know the difference between a NICE GUY versus a GOOD GUY.

 

I won't go into details on this topic today, because I will cover this in detail on a future blog post.


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Posted on Aug 28, 2014 at 02:10 PM

WHY NICE GUYS FAIL WITH WOMEN(Part 2)

 

Nice guys often get nervous and develop a case of COLD FEET when they are in the presence of women, especially the unusually attractive women.

 

Here are a couple of formulas to remember:

 

1) Cold Feet=Cold/Dry Other Things Below The Waist

 

2) The Usually Nice Guy Routine=See Formula #1

 

 

So let's talk about these ideas.

 

If you ever hear a woman say the words, "He's nice", you can pull out all the money you have on you and bet that she's not ATTRACTED to the guy she's talking about.

 

Women don't use the  word "Nice" to describe men they're FEELING it for.  They just DON'T!

 

So, why would you want to make SURE she never feels anything other than friendship for you?

 

Hmmmmm.

 

What you're telling me is that a super-babe that you may have known a few years ago, and was super-nice to, and you couldn't make anything happen then...so you're thinking of pouring twice as much niceness, hoping that things might work better the second time around?

 

Hmmmmm.

 

Here's a good rule of thumb:

 

If your behaviour isn't getting you the consistent results that you'd like to get, CHANGE IT.

 

Do ANYTHING different.

 

I'm serious here.

 

If what you are doing isn't working, DO SOMETHING ELSE IMMEDIATELY!

 

And, if you've FOUND SOMETHING that works, then KEEP DOING IT!

 

 

(To Be Continued)


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Posted on Aug 23, 2014 at 06:13 AM

Good day everyone,

 

Your observations are echoed and empathized.

 

However, I've learned that beneath all of the fluff of being either, God's love demonstrated and expressed in readings as  1 Corinthians 13 conveys 'universal' characteristics.  In the end, both will realize, seek, and experience that truth.

 

 

 Thank you for posting the echoed observations and may everyone eventually be united with those for whom we were designed.

 

Stay encouraged!


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Posted on Aug 13, 2014 at 09:54 PM

WHY NICE GUYS FAIL WITH WOMEN(Part 1)

 

Have you noticed that:

 

1) The most attractive and interesting women seem to be attracted to men who don't treat them very well?

 

2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman, the more often she seems to act like "just a friend" to you?

 

So...what's going on here?  Didn't mom say to be "nice" to girls?

 

Here's the deal:  Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys.  Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident, and mysterious and intriguing.  Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'4 tall and model-handsome, then you have to learn how to attract women with your personality.

 

And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.

 

I've covered this topic before on the blogs and the forums, but I don't mind driving down this road again.

 

I sometimes refer to the NICE GUY as a....WUSSY.

 

Wussy defined:  A man(sort of)who lacks sufficient self-confidence to engage in a more normal behavior while in the company of women.  Such men attempt to win over women by being artificially nice and courteous, and complimentary, usually with disastrous results.

Women tend to make decisions(about men) very quickly, and on a "gut level," and these decisions are made unconsciously.  So what decisions am I "talking" about here?  Whether a guy that she's just met makes her feel ATTRACTION FEELINGS or JUST FRIENDS FEELINGS.

 

(To Be Continued)

 

 


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Posted on Aug 12, 2014 at 03:21 PM

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Nice and spineless are two different things. I like a nice man NOT a wimp. BIG difference. Everyone wants a confident person and often the " nice" guys appear insecure, weak or do not value themselves. This is a turn off and women who are USERS will walk all over this type. But who can't help but LOVE a nice confident guy.  



I agree, I think there is a big difference between a man being nice, and a man being spineless. I think what a lot of us men need to do is always balance our soft traits(niceness, kindness) with our hard traits(strength, assertiveness). We can be nice and kind, while being strong and assertive, at the same time. I think it's all about having a balance.


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Posted on Aug 11, 2014 at 10:55 AM

Nice and spineless are two different things. I like a nice man NOT a wimp. BIG difference. Everyone wants a confident person and often the " nice" guys appear insecure, weak or do not value themselves. This is a turn off and women who are USERS will walk all over this type. But who can't help but LOVE a nice confident guy.  


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