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Posted on Dec 29, 2007 at 05:40 AM

If this blog site is the mirror of your American society I will never want to live there. How can people be so cruel? I know that Eyersh wasn't too diplomatic, sometimes even rude, but have you asked yourself why does she do this. Maybe she is lonely, maybe she needs some attention, maybe she needs a friend... But even you Rump (who call yourself her friend) did not stand next to her. I am not going to say that I like her (I still remember her comments about my look) but I don't desire to revenge. Would anyone give a hand to someone who fall down to let him or her stand up? Or you will walk upon her/his body? You can disagree it is your right...

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Posted on Jan 21, 2008 at 10:02 AM

Kahlil Gibran: Truth is a deep kindness that teaches us to be content in our everyday life and share with the people the same happiness. Sir Winston Churchill: Truth is incontrovertible, malice may attack it and ignorance may deride it, but, in the end, there it is. Henri Frederic Amiel: Truth is the secret of eloquence and of virtue, the basis of moral authority; it is the highest summit of art and of life. Brian Tracy: Truthfulness is the main element of character. This is how truth should be used, to lift up and enlighten. Besides, how can someone who is a total stranger to you know the 'truth' about you, when sometimes we don't know the truth of our own lives?

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Posted on Jan 21, 2008 at 06:21 AM

Everyone, no matter how unpleasant they may be, deserves a certain level of respect and sympathy. I think when someone acts cruelly towards others they debase themselves. No one should be treated with cruelty even people who are cruel. I was offline for a few weeks while I was on vacation in Portugal so I don?t know why Ayersch left or was kicked off or what motivated you to write this blog now. I don?t know what happened and I can?t say I particularly care. I am more interested in what kind of behavior people here will tolerate. The blogs here are not a mirror of American society but a reflection of the society that the members of this site have created. If there is cruelty on this site it is because we have either acted with cruelty ourselves or tolerated cruelty towards others. I hope with your quote from Plato you were not implying that Ayersch was speaking the truth and is being persecuted for it. What one thinks is true often depends on one?s point of view. If someone has a grudge against the world and thinks the worse of people then what they think is true is far different from what someone who thinks the best of people. What Hitler thought was true was not the same as what Anne Frank thought. When it comes to the idea of truth one should also consider what the movie Rashomon has to say about the subjectivity truth. The play the Iceman Cometh also has some pertinent insights on the idea of truth and how we twist it to make ourselves look better to ourselves. I doubt if anyone really thinks of themselves as being cruel. If you think the worse of people it is far easier to think you are just ?telling it like it is? than to think of yourself as a misanthrope.

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Posted on Jan 20, 2008 at 03:40 AM

They deem him their worst enemy who tells them the truth. -Plato, philosopher (427-347 BCE) Think of it!

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Posted on Jan 20, 2008 at 01:24 AM

You are absolutely right exb, she is aggressive and rude sometimes, but she is a human as you and me, she is not less human than your friend (if you mean Ladyinred, then I am sure she had issues and she needs some professional help). I am sure that we shouldn't expect sympathy or love from the same gender, because of the purpose of the site - we all looking and women are competitors for women, men for men. I respect gentlemen because they at least don't show this hatred to each other. What's for Philly, I just can say that if you are looking for friend, you will not public blogs on the site like this, you will subscribe for golden membership and see for yourself if he still active on the site. I guess it was a woman's trick, to call attention to him, who knows for what reason. What I am saying is: if somebody is cruel it doesn't mean that we need to be cruel as well

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Posted on Jan 19, 2008 at 10:51 PM

Angelaforyou You began this blog by asking if someone had fallen down would you give them a hand to stand up? I had a friend who was on this site who had fallen down and needed a hand to get back up. For a while I was afraid for her. She was in a deep depression and sounded potentially suicidal. Ayersch publically mocked her, implied she was crazy and a liar. My friend ended up leaving this site in part because of Ayersch. You asked in the beginning of this blog how can people be so cruel. I think that question should be addressed to Ayersch. Ayersch was quick to assert her right to free speech on this site but at the same time created a chilling atmosphere that discouraged others from doing the same. How many people have not posted blogs here for fear of being mocked and ridiculed by Ayersch. I can only speculate but look at what happened when Phillygirl69 wrote her blog ?Searching for a friend?. Not only does Ayersch leave nasty comments on Phillygirl?s blog, Ayersch writes a blog personally attacking Phillygirl and all Phillygirl had done was ask about a friend. Is it unreasonable to think this would have a chilling effect on other bloggers when someone writes an innocuous blog and this is the result? I have seen Ayersch launch personal attacks on other members here for the last two years. I have always found it disturbing but I said nothing until she mocked my friend who was in a depression. That is when her reckless disregard of other people?s feelings seemed to go beyond being merely insensitive and cruel to being potentially dangerous. I too have wondered why she acted the way she did but in the end it does not matter to me why she does it. I just want her to stop. I don?t know what happened during the three blissful weeks I was offline but unless some terrible tragedy has befallen Ayersch my sympathies are with those she attacked and not with the attacker. I think dave45039 comments have been insightful and from what I have seen on this blog I don't see where his comments have been racist at all.

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Posted on Jan 18, 2008 at 11:48 PM

Re: preferblackman write: one problem in that statement is that she quite often stated she was from Ireland, not the States. So she should not be seen as an example of American society, unless you count her as such because she now lives here. her personality was not formed here, but in Ireland, and she imported it.

I am afraid you did not understand my post, I know Eyersh, maybe for longer time than you do and know about her origin as well. What I tried to say was whatever person she is I don't think she should have been attacked by all people. You made her leave and nobody said "STOP attacking her".

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Posted on Jan 16, 2008 at 03:41 PM

Words of wisdom and TOLERANCE!!!! AMEN!

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Posted on Jan 15, 2008 at 11:48 PM

I have been away for 3 weeks so I do not know exactly what all the sturm und drang is about but I do not think you can judge Americans by the bad things that goes on here. Some people here seem more intent on making enemies than making friends. The negatives things I have seen here seem more a result of personal pathologies than the pathologies of American society. I think human nature is pretty much the same the world over. I do not think people in American are any kinder or crueler than other people. The people who at times have dominated these pages are not representative of Americans as a whole. These blogs have not been very welcoming. I would not be surprised if some good people have not been posting for fear of being mocked and insulted. I have seen people being attacked and insulted over and over with no provocation. When you are being attacked for no reason it is easy to get pulled down into the muck with the attacker. Unfortunately in order to post anything on these blogs you have to have a thick skin. I think the anonymity of the web makes it easier to be cruel. If someone could see the hurt and pain they cause others they would be less likely to be so cruel. But then again some people are just at war with the world and do not care who they hurt. You have been always been one of the nicer people on this site and have managed not to get pulled down into the muck when you were the one being attacked. It is a pity that it is others who seem to dominate this place and not people like you.

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Posted on Jan 15, 2008 at 01:02 PM

Thank you Jummer and I wish you that your nicest desires come true this year! I apologize for delay in my reply, I am away from home and have internet access only on rare occasions.

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Posted on Jan 13, 2008 at 02:49 PM

Re: angelaforyou write: Re: rumplestilskin2010 write: your whole platform and point of blog is hinged if not centered on a LIE... A LIE... that LIE being that you claim i made a specific statement to further your not so subtle back slap at one who is called 'AYERSCH'... that being said, your attempt at making me party to something based on a LIE. veritably makes YOU the LIAR , if not mortally deceptive as well as defuse your questionable angelic aura... you've done it before with your selective editing and now you bend to creating what was never there... i am NOT offended.... however i find your methods and delivery totally OFFENSIVE and an insult to those reading...
I never called you names, never called anybody here liar, so may I ask you to leave my blogs Rumple? I am not going to report you, nor delete your posts I just ask you to never post any comments on my blogs. Thank you! And I absolutely support dave's opinion about you.
putting me on report... how intriguing... welcome to grade school and the time out chair... i do commend your decision to not delete... the posts stand for what they are... it is what it is... the dialogue would have not gone this far and to this level if you had recognized the fallacy and the misrepresentation of your initial post... your terms are accepted... the comment on your mutual support is irrelevant... p.s. i have already turned myself in to the mercy of the powers that be and have plead 'nolo contendere' as opposed to 'not guilty'...

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Posted on Jan 11, 2008 at 01:44 PM

Re: rumplestilskin2010 write: your whole platform and point of blog is hinged if not centered on a LIE... A LIE... that LIE being that you claim i made a specific statement to further your not so subtle back slap at one who is called 'AYERSCH'... that being said, your attempt at making me party to something based on a LIE. veritably makes YOU the LIAR , if not mortally deceptive as well as defuse your questionable angelic aura... you've done it before with your selective editing and now you bend to creating what was never there... i am NOT offended.... however i find your methods and delivery totally OFFENSIVE and an insult to those reading...

I never called you names, never called anybody here liar, so may I ask you to leave my blogs Rumple? I am not going to report you, nor delete your posts I just ask you to never post any comments on my blogs. Thank you! And I absolutely support dave's opinion about you.

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Posted on Jan 11, 2008 at 12:41 PM

Hey Angela! HAPPY NEW YEAR!!! Better late than never... Dearheart, the people behind the blogs are representative of only a small part of american society. Your homeland can point to or tell stories about 1,000 years of history. Your culture is essentially, of a piece, carved from one stone, shaped and formed into what it is. Ours is more of a stone fence, such as those found along fields and country roads the world over, each stone finding its place over time, the wall serving its purpose but not really planned. There are so many different people that make up the U.S.! We are a vast and complex people, Angela, with a great capacity for kindness and also a great capacity for unintentioned cruelty. Pragmatic romantics, dreamers with a flair for getting things done, stright line thinkers for the most part, but capable of leaps of intuitive inspiration. Take the time to get to know us.

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Posted on Jan 11, 2008 at 09:47 AM

]quote[you're just like a little lap dog, running over to me,jumpimg up and down, wanting attention, be petted, exposing your belly. ]quote[ apparently/obviously can't tell the difference between a rump and a belly either, even when the nose is touching.... children backpedal a tricycle with a lot more finesse.....

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Posted on Jan 10, 2008 at 01:23 AM

]quote[I have challenged you on two occasions to have me ejected and to date, no action has been taken. Begs the question, "Why the double standard"?.]quote[ no double standard at all... it's 'higher education' watching poetry in motion explaining themselves... nothing is boring here and nothing is stupid, and it may only be the fool that has convinced themselves as to such... 'course, could be nothing more than f'ing with a wrong guy....

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Posted on Jan 09, 2008 at 10:52 PM

]quote[Rumple implied that only black people are qualified to identify it. ]quote[ no implication... only your own perception... no need for rebuttals or last words... your posts stand on the their own merit... widens the scope on how you think...and as well corroborates definitions of stupidity, boring, sidestepping...oops... almost forgot back-pedaling... nice to know as well, you abuse animals... especially the ones that come near you wagging their tail... >>>just like your boss(or dare I say owner?)<<< my boss, my owner...??? knievel too better leaps with less risk...

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Posted on Jan 08, 2008 at 03:01 AM

A mirror of society? Oh hell yeah,but there are bigger issues than that, such as why? A quick hint, it is historically similar to great empires at the end of their greatness???? My play time is over so that will have to wait for a future visit. Angela, you frequently come up with thought provoking blogs, keep that subject in mind. But a couple points to ponder: First, I will do the opposite of what attackers do and that is to encourage everyone reading this blog to NOT, I'll repeat do NOT believe what I've had to say about the narcissistic sociopath, but instead, use the wealth of information here on the net about the subject. Pay particular attention to the discussions on NPD/Sociopath and NPD/Godlike delusions. And how it works in a group using the 'approval of and withholding of approval', I.E. the carrot and the stick. Next regarding Racism/Racist labels. The use of these labels are very delicate and the incorrect, false, or selfish use of them does as much harm to race relations as the racists themselves. Think 'the boy who cried wolf'. Now compare that to OJ Simpsom or the Jena6 falsely using racism as a means to bypass justice. Look what has happened in this blog, falsely used racist label leads to a loss of credibility. Now blow all that up to the larger issue of race relations and all of a sudden,where is the credible definition of racism? without a credible definition of the word 'racism', then how will we fight racism. If there is no credible definition, how will it be identified?,Rumple implied that only black people are qualified to identify it. Does that mean the next OJ can commit double homicide,,,,LEGALLY? Does it mean two separate legal systems? Two separate countries? If we can't identify it, how can it end?If there is no credible definition then there must not be any racism, right? Think about it folks and play nice...............

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Posted on Jan 08, 2008 at 02:34 AM

Barbi, In your 'site selective...' blog, you had a guy removed for using the exact word I used, I even copied his spelling verbatim to insure it passed the censorship police. You had him immediately ejected for his racists comments and complimented 'big brother' for their swift action in doing so. Now you accuse me of the same thing. You referred to me as a 'crazy bigoted racist with an explosive temper' Surely, I must be as scary to you as that guy was. I have challenged you on two occasions to have me ejected and to date, no action has been taken. Begs the question, "Why the double standard"?. Let me take this racist argument a step further; Why is it only you accusing me? Believe me, if a man of the great intellect and wisdom of phea44 said the same things you're saying, I would have to dig very deep to come up with the right words for an apology for such an enormous offense, there is no way I would try to match wits with him as I would clearly be outclassed, and I would certainly respect his judgement on this subject. If Jammer, whom I've referred to as a consummate gentlemanm or EXB3 whom I've observed as a person willing to speak up against offensiveness, even the pedestrians many of whom MUST be people of color, but still nothing. The silence is deafening. It is only you, who is biased because of your association with, and a follower of, that lunatic, and your double standards, as demonstrated here, that is doing the complaining. Sorry Barbiq, your credibility is shot. Which brings me to the lesson of the day which I'll post in another window, as my play time has ended and you can get your final words in from here.... BTW, I didn't remove the original quote, nor do I agree with it being removed, selective censorship going on.... P.P.S. Ok, it's a couple hours later and those first two paragraphs are still not sitting right with me. I don't want you to think that I'm critisizing you for having him ejected. I could tell from your blog that you felt threatened and I agree you did the right thing. However, I can't remove those paragraphs because they support my entire position of bias. Your comparison of me with him is your right, but safety first.....

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Posted on Jan 08, 2008 at 02:13 AM

Re: for the pedestrians who DO get it...

Rimple, just like your boss(or dare I say owner?), you try to separate people into groups, those who 'get it' and those that don't, I know, you want to present yourself as being 'deep' and only those with 'depth' will 'get it', Let me explain something, you're not deep, you're boring, there's a difference..... get it? My play time is over so I'll leave you with this final post so you can have the last word. But don't worry, I'm sure at some future date, I'll have time to visit again, and I'm sure just like always you'll be here to greet me. Every time I visit here, you're just like a little lap dog, running over to me,jumpimg up and down, wanting attention, be petted, exposing your belly. You're not my kinda dog, Dog, that's why I keep slapping you down.

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Posted on Jan 07, 2008 at 10:16 PM

]quote[I'm being as fair and polite as I can be under the circumstances. It's a good offer, won't get any better......]quote[ SEE...!!! now it all makes sense... especially when you say, 'it won't get any better'.... leaves only one choice... worse... that along with your past quote of 'you're f'ing with the wrong guy'... emphasis on 'wrong'... way to go... please do... have some tokens... nahhhhhh, that's to easy, so is blocking, delting and getting tossed... 'sides, your continuing education series on your point of reference on stupidity would be disrupted... and honesty is always a good idea... but BRUTAL... definitely will stick around for this... scathing and searing is usually the better way... yup... don't go.... stay... but hold on to the tokens, just in case.... can always string 'em up like a puka shell necklace...

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