I know that women complain about men and vice versa. It seems like we are looking for the same thing ultimately...to find that one special person we can grow old with and share our lives with. So why does it have to be so complicated? Why do people tell stories or lie about who they really are or any number of the things we have all heard at one point or another? I'm wondering have we all been so jaded in life that we are afraid to be upfront with our partners for fear they will not accept who we truely are? Or are people that uncomfortable with who they are that they lack the ability to be real? Or are people just terminal a-holes who tell stories for kicks?!!! Im hoping its not the latter but sometimes you just have to face facts!!!

*steps off soap box*

Im done now...carry on!

I'm going to bypass the whole lying to get into someone's pants thing because I just don't understand that. There are more than enough people of both genders out there looking for casual nookie.

The issue I find interesting is of how we like to put our best foot forward when meeting someone for the first time. We all do it to some degree or another even if it is something as simple as wearing an outfit that makes us look hot. Some people take it a step further and avoid any subject that my lead to them revealing something supposedly less favorable about themselves. Other take it even further and just outright lie.

Lying, well that never accomplishes much in the long run. A relationship is supposed to be built on trust and if someone is lying up front, then the foundation is built on quicksand and is just waiting for a string wind to come along and knock it over.

The gray area is when people hide pieces of themselves fearing that they might turn their date off. Personally I think it can work in our favor if we bring up the delicate stuff early on. To me it's better to find out if they are going to have a problem with it early on than to invest time in a relationship that was going to bomb out anyway.

Granted sometimes spending time together will build up enough of a foundation to cause the other person to at least stop and think before running away, but to me if it is going to be that big of an issue, then it's still going to be a problem.

I'd rather be with someone who can accept me as I am from the start. It's just much easier that way and if I can really open up with someone early on, it means we are destined to have that much more fun later on.

Tim, I agree with you. Some men will lie just to see her again. A lot of them know that it is short term, because eventually she will find the truth. Then, they move on to next unsuspecting lady. There is no fullfillment in that. Only the quick gratification do they seek.

This is why I am upfront about what I am about in my profile. Many will disagree and I understand that. At least one knows what the extent of our involvement, together.

It depends on what the two of you are looking for. For example, it could be a number of things but if the guy is looking for a booty call or a girl is looking for a free lunch one would not tell the other person this up front.

They?re going to tell you what you most likely would want to hear in order to keep seeing you.

It?s wrong but it is just a part of life. One has to bite the bullet and take a chance if you like the other person.

Don?t give to much of yourself and give the relationship time to develop before continuing on an intimate level. This would be my suggestion.