I'M NEW TO THIS AND IT IS BOTHER ME BECAUSE I'M A NICE YOUNG LADY THAT DONT SEE COLOR OR JUDGE THE BOOK BY THE COVER SO WHY IS THE FIRST THING YOUR DESCRIPITION AND SOMETHING ABOUT SEX ITS SOME WOMAN THAT R LOOKING FOR MORE THAN JUST SEX WHAT ABOUT YOUR FRIEND SOMEBODY U CAN LAUGH WITH TALK WITH DO EVERYTHING WHAT HAPPEN TO THOSE TYPE OF MEN.

I never thought that until I deleted my profile on another site.  This guy contacted me and was a cutie pie. We exchanged numbers and the first thing he text was "do you have a big booty"... mind you he didn't mention anything like this during our chats on the website.  I asked him why did he ask? he says, "I just love big black asses"... Needless to say, I told him I don't appreciate being disrespected and to never reach out to me again.
I don't think this is a pattern for white men at all since this was the first time I experienced such ignorance from one. Don't despair there are plenty who will want you for more than just your body.

It's definitely not a race thing. Its a gender thing but then again, I hear from some of my guy friends there are women that do that too. I wish they'd get together with each other and let those of us wanting more, meet each other.

I am not sure why that is happening. It seems like some men have different intentions than other men. But as for me I am looking for someone I can get to know better.... know what they are all about. I like to know a person inside and out, what they like and what they dislike. If that is someone you are looking for and you are interested let me know. I will be willing to chat and get to know you.

I agree it's a gender thing because I have the same problem with black men. I call it the "sex test."  Men try to find out as soon as possible what they will get out of you sexually to determine if they want to put any effort into pursuing you.

I believe it goes much deeper than just the internet and so forth. I believe it goes back to slavery when black men and women were at the very disposal of white men; to use and let go without consequences because the law deemed them as property.  As time went on and the laws changed, giving Blacks their constitutional freedoms, many whites still refused to accept blacks as their equal. Therefore, still continuing to treat black women as property and never acknowledging that they are of the human race, created in the image of God, and deserve to be treated with respect, period!!!

Sorry you've had that experience, im new to interracial dating and don't have white men approach me so i wouldn't know. i hope theyre not all like that, and i imagine in every race there are those who are here for a casual thing - so therefore they lean more towards that as a topic when talkin to a woman. but im sure there must be white men out there lookin for somethin real, and not disrespectful ---- i hope :o
But i know that blk women are portrayed as the "body"  in media, because we tend to be curvier then other races, i think this might also have a role to play in why you've had those experiences. i hope some one worth talkin to comes a long for you. all the bessst

Your experience?   Sex becomes less important as opposed to compatibility as we get wiser.
I dont want to wake up next to a woman (the morning after) who can hold a conversation.

Not all white men would talk about sex.. that is a generalization, I think most people just overlook the good that can come from an engaging conversation with one another.

The Internet can be a rather strange "place" at times, especially when it comes to social interaction.

In regards to dating sites, we often find ourselves communicating with others while wearing a mask, and this is true whether you have a photo posted or not; it is so easy to write things that you would never have the nerve to actually say face-to-face, thus the SEX TALK that many of the women experience(on this site, as well as other sites), and it isn't just black women that it happens to, because a DOG IS A DOG on any platform or...Forum.

Ignore SEXUAL OVRERTURES.

~phea44

SOME OF THEM SEE BLACK WOMEN FOR JUST SEX OR THEY WILL WANT TO BE YOUR FRIEND WITH BENEFIT.IF ANY MAN COME TO ME WITH THOSE KIND OF ATTITUDE I JUST BLOCK THEM OR STOP TALKING TO THEM. THAT IS VERY DISRESPECTIVE.SOME OF OUR LOOSE BLACK WOMEN MAKES THEM THINK OF US THAT WAY.

Its not just "white men" its men of all races. I think its based on immaturity. Unfortunately i allowed myself to be pulled into it once, but never again. I have since met normal, intelligent men with vocabulary that is not just made up only of sex talks.

One will say to us what they want to BUT only if we allow them to.

You are so right.Even men of your own color can act that way...no matter what color they are...they are immature.

That just means they have no class and are only out for sex. It doesn't matter what color they are.

It is the same the other way too. Most times black men approach me and start on sex right away. I think it has to do with being a website. They wouldn't dare to do that face to face! Anyway, it makes it easier to weed out the bad ones and find the good one.

hi sweetie how you.hope luck and happyness smileing on sweet you.guess your meeting the rong men all men not like that .so just get out there keep the faith all things nice smile on sweet you.sweet dreams enjoyxx