@still, No What I'm suggesting is, lets say you see a guy in public or here on this or any other site and you find him to be of interest. Go talk to him, write him an email (if it's a dating site) you never know, for example you are doing a search and you find him, send him an email, because he might never find you in his searches. It is 2011 an it is acceptable for women to do such things.
In a perfect world and time. Yes, it would be awesome for women to have the guy find her first and Yes, make the first move/contact, but that doesn't happen all the time. So would you rather go home kicking yourself in the Butt, saying, gosh I should have at least said Hello ? or say, you know what I gave it a shot ?
I know women love the perfect romance, but this isn't a perfect world we live in.
just a thought.
Quoting StillLkng4U:
Hate to put you on the spot, but does that mean you are waiting for a woman to make the first move? I suppose that's fair, especially if you've been burned before.
I'll put that out there as a general question: Ladies do you feel that the men are holding back? Gentlemen do you agree with WGL - it's 2011 time for the ladies to step up?
Quoting StillLkng4U:
Hate to put you on the spot, but does that mean you are waiting for a woman to make the first move? I suppose that's fair, especially if you've been burned before.
I'll put that out there as a general question: Ladies do you feel that the men are holding back? Gentlemen do you agree with WGL - it's 2011 time for the ladies to step up?
@still, No What I'm suggesting is, lets say you see a guy in public or here on this or any other site and you find him to be of interest. Go talk to him, write him an email (if it's a dating site) you never know, for example you are doing a search and you find him, send him an email, because he might never find you in his searches. It is 2011 an it is acceptable for women to do such things.
In a perfect world and time. Yes, it would be awesome for women to have the guy find her first and Yes, make the first move/contact, but that doesn't happen all the time. So would you rather go home kicking yourself in the Butt, saying, gosh I should have at least said Hello ? or say, you know what I gave it a shot ?
I know women love the perfect romance, but this isn't a perfect world we live in.
Hate to put you on the spot, but does that mean you are waiting for a woman to make the first move? I suppose that's fair, especially if you've been burned before.
I'll put that out there as a general question: Ladies do you feel that the men are holding back? Gentlemen do you agree with WGL - it's 2011 time for the ladies to step up?
Hate to put you on the spot, but does that mean you are waiting for a woman to make the first move? I suppose that's fair, especially if you've been burned before.
I'll put that out there as a general question: Ladies do you feel that the men are holding back? Gentlemen do you agree with WGL - it's 2011 time for the ladies to step up?
@ still Talk to him, just let him know. or email him, thats a great way to start, you never know. I know alot of women are afraid or think it's the man need to make the first move, much like Interracial dating, it'ss 2011, lets get to it. ;)
@ la,, sorry to hear about your romance.
Quoting StillLkng4U:
Thank you for sharing. That is so sad. It takes a lot to commit to a long distance relationship, and for it to end like that . . .
How do we "weed out" the rebounders? Is there ever a way to tell?
So Whitemanlooking what kind of signal does a man need to know that a woman is interested in him?
Quoting StillLkng4U:
Thank you for sharing. That is so sad. It takes a lot to commit to a long distance relationship, and for it to end like that . . .
How do we "weed out" the rebounders? Is there ever a way to tell?
So Whitemanlooking what kind of signal does a man need to know that a woman is interested in him?
@ still Talk to him, just let him know. or email him, thats a great way to start, you never know. I know alot of women are afraid or think it's the man need to make the first move, much like Interracial dating, it'ss 2011, lets get to it. ;)
I just came across your blog and wanted to jump in to say that I met a man on this site last year and we dated for a little over a year. He lived in New York and I live in Los Angeles. He flew out to LA to take me to dinner in Santa Monica. It was very nice. I think we emailed three times before we actually met. I flew to New York two months later and we did this whirlwind East Coast swing (I'd never been)--went to Niagara Falls, Philadelphia, Delaware, took in all the sights in NYC and a couple of Broadway shows (Wicked and Jersey Boys). We were doing the bicoastal thing every other month and things were humming along. I couldn't believe my good fortune. Then a funny thing happened... His ex-girlfriend,from whom he said he had been broken up for over a year prior to our going out, died suddenly just before Christmas. He was devastated. Totally abandoned our relationship. It would take me forever to detail the slow and painful end, but it was bad. Six months after she died, he was still depressed. When we broke up (I finally called it off) he said that he was going to spend the rest of his life honoring her memory and taking care of her mother and teenage son. I was stunned. I never came back to this site--until today-and I'm not even sure why I'm here because I am TRULY not looking for a relationship. Not yet anyway.....:-)
I just came across your blog and wanted to jump in to say that I met a man on this site last year and we dated for a little over a year. He lived in New York and I live in Los Angeles. He flew out to LA to take me to dinner in Santa Monica. It was very nice. I think we emailed three times before we actually met. I flew to New York two months later and we did this whirlwind East Coast swing (I'd never been)--went to Niagara Falls, Philadelphia, Delaware, took in all the sights in NYC and a couple of Broadway shows (Wicked and Jersey Boys). We were doing the bicoastal thing every other month and things were humming along. I couldn't believe my good fortune. Then a funny thing happened... His ex-girlfriend,from whom he said he had been broken up for over a year prior to our going out, died suddenly just before Christmas. He was devastated. Totally abandoned our relationship. It would take me forever to detail the slow and painful end, but it was bad. Six months after she died, he was still depressed. When we broke up (I finally called it off) he said that he was going to spend the rest of his life honoring her memory and taking care of her mother and teenage son. I was stunned. I never came back to this site--until today-and I'm not even sure why I'm here because I am TRULY not looking for a relationship. Not yet anyway.....:-)
In my experience, usually when someone gets remarried right away, it's a rebound thing and usually doesn't last. I never understand when people do that, but hey whatever gets one through the rough times, not for me to Judge.
My favorite saying in these situations is, "theres a Jack for every Jill" just have to be patient and when he comes along, it will be worth the wait. Also, maybe your not sending out the right signals, let the dude know your interested somehow.
Quoting StillLkng4U:
I get discouraged sometimes. I wonder if I'm doing the right thing. I know everyone is not how they seem online, but I seem doomed to get just those, lol.
My ex just got married yesterday. Everyone keeps asking how I'm doing. Either I'm ok, or it just isn't real to me yet. Ironic really, after such a long relationship, that he could find someone and marry them so quickly. Wanted to be sarcastic and play "Congratulations" by Vesta Williams, but then she died, and it didn't seem right. How long do we have commit to "hang in there" for the "right" person? Is there really a right person out there or is it just me?
Quoting StillLkng4U:
I get discouraged sometimes. I wonder if I'm doing the right thing. I know everyone is not how they seem online, but I seem doomed to get just those, lol.
My ex just got married yesterday. Everyone keeps asking how I'm doing. Either I'm ok, or it just isn't real to me yet. Ironic really, after such a long relationship, that he could find someone and marry them so quickly. Wanted to be sarcastic and play "Congratulations" by Vesta Williams, but then she died, and it didn't seem right. How long do we have commit to "hang in there" for the "right" person? Is there really a right person out there or is it just me?
In my experience, usually when someone gets remarried right away, it's a rebound thing and usually doesn't last. I never understand when people do that, but hey whatever gets one through the rough times, not for me to Judge.
My favorite saying in these situations is, "theres a Jack for every Jill" just have to be patient and when he comes along, it will be worth the wait. Also, maybe your not sending out the right signals, let the dude know your interested somehow.
I get discouraged sometimes. I wonder if I'm doing the right thing. I know everyone is not how they seem online, but I seem doomed to get just those, lol.
My ex just got married yesterday. Everyone keeps asking how I'm doing. Either I'm ok, or it just isn't real to me yet. Ironic really, after such a long relationship, that he could find someone and marry them so quickly. Wanted to be sarcastic and play "Congratulations" by Vesta Williams, but then she died, and it didn't seem right. How long do we have commit to "hang in there" for the "right" person? Is there really a right person out there or is it just me?
I get discouraged sometimes. I wonder if I'm doing the right thing. I know everyone is not how they seem online, but I seem doomed to get just those, lol.
My ex just got married yesterday. Everyone keeps asking how I'm doing. Either I'm ok, or it just isn't real to me yet. Ironic really, after such a long relationship, that he could find someone and marry them so quickly. Wanted to be sarcastic and play "Congratulations" by Vesta Williams, but then she died, and it didn't seem right. How long do we have commit to "hang in there" for the "right" person? Is there really a right person out there or is it just me?
First, that was very rude of him to just leave you there!
I'm never discouraged.
Quoting StillLkng4U:
Did it put you off? I don't remember if I posted or not, but I met a guy once who lived three hours from me. We had talked for months got along great. When we met he made it very clearly that I was not what he was looking for physically and left me at the door of the restaurant. Never even asked if I made it home safely.
It took me a long time go back to these sites. Did you get discouraged at all?
Quoting StillLkng4U:
Did it put you off? I don't remember if I posted or not, but I met a guy once who lived three hours from me. We had talked for months got along great. When we met he made it very clearly that I was not what he was looking for physically and left me at the door of the restaurant. Never even asked if I made it home safely.
It took me a long time go back to these sites. Did you get discouraged at all?
First, that was very rude of him to just leave you there!
Did it put you off? I don't remember if I posted or not, but I met a guy once who lived three hours from me. We had talked for months got along great. When we met he made it very clearly that I was not what he was looking for physically and left me at the door of the restaurant. Never even asked if I made it home safely.
It took me a long time go back to these sites. Did you get discouraged at all?
Did it put you off? I don't remember if I posted or not, but I met a guy once who lived three hours from me. We had talked for months got along great. When we met he made it very clearly that I was not what he was looking for physically and left me at the door of the restaurant. Never even asked if I made it home safely.
It took me a long time go back to these sites. Did you get discouraged at all?
Yes, I have, I met a lovely woman from Toledo Ohio from this site. We met for dinner had a great talk,,but that all elusive spark just wasn't there. She was a charming woman though.
Quoting StillLkng4U:
Thanks SweetnWarm for sharing your experience. I have experienced the same. Hurt is hurt no matter how it is done. We all have feelings, and I think we would do well to remember that when dealing with one another.
I do well in person, so I tend to say "if we can just get to the meeting . . ." But most of these contacts never get to a meeting.
So has anyone actually met anyone on this site? Local or long distance? If you had one piece of advice to share what would it be?
Quoting StillLkng4U:
Thanks SweetnWarm for sharing your experience. I have experienced the same. Hurt is hurt no matter how it is done. We all have feelings, and I think we would do well to remember that when dealing with one another.
I do well in person, so I tend to say "if we can just get to the meeting . . ." But most of these contacts never get to a meeting.
So has anyone actually met anyone on this site? Local or long distance? If you had one piece of advice to share what would it be?
Yes, I have, I met a lovely woman from Toledo Ohio from this site. We met for dinner had a great talk,,but that all elusive spark just wasn't there. She was a charming woman though.
Thanks SweetnWarm for sharing your experience. I have experienced the same. Hurt is hurt no matter how it is done. We all have feelings, and I think we would do well to remember that when dealing with one another.
I do well in person, so I tend to say "if we can just get to the meeting . . ." But most of these contacts never get to a meeting.
So has anyone actually met anyone on this site? Local or long distance? If you had one piece of advice to share what would it be?
Thanks SweetnWarm for sharing your experience. I have experienced the same. Hurt is hurt no matter how it is done. We all have feelings, and I think we would do well to remember that when dealing with one another.
I do well in person, so I tend to say "if we can just get to the meeting . . ." But most of these contacts never get to a meeting.
So has anyone actually met anyone on this site? Local or long distance? If you had one piece of advice to share what would it be?
Thanks SweetnWarm for sharing your experience. I have experienced the same. Hurt is hurt no matter how it is done. We all have feelings, and I think we would do well to remember that when dealing with one another.
I do well in person, so I tend to say "if we can just get to the meeting . . ." But most of these contacts never get to a meeting.
So has anyone actually met anyone on this site? Local or long distance? If you had one piece of advice to share what would it be?
Thanks SweetnWarm for sharing your experience. I have experienced the same. Hurt is hurt no matter how it is done. We all have feelings, and I think we would do well to remember that when dealing with one another.
I do well in person, so I tend to say "if we can just get to the meeting . . ." But most of these contacts never get to a meeting.
So has anyone actually met anyone on this site? Local or long distance? If you had one piece of advice to share what would it be?
It is tough sometimes. I think you have to be able to handle rejection well. I agree with you some people are definately here to play and not serious about finding a partner
It is tough sometimes. I think you have to be able to handle rejection well. I agree with you some people are definately here to play and not serious about finding a partner
First of all, congratulations to you and your wife, that's wonderful. I agree with your statement, but not sure if everyone else buys into that. I'm starting to think that some people just get on the site to play.
How many of us are really on here looking for a special someone? (no one nighters don't count, lol)
First of all, congratulations to you and your wife, that's wonderful. I agree with your statement, but not sure if everyone else buys into that. I'm starting to think that some people just get on the site to play.
How many of us are really on here looking for a special someone? (no one nighters don't count, lol)
My wife and I met online and were married 18 months later. We celebrated our 1st year anniversary in April.
As far as being critical, I think anyone that has dated online, learns to be less critical of the people they meet because fact is, you never get what you dream up in your head. So you really have to lessen your standards a little, i.e, if they have all their limbs, can speak good english, read and write ok, and doesn't have turrets, then maybe a second date might not be so bad. LOL!
My wife and I met online and were married 18 months later. We celebrated our 1st year anniversary in April.
As far as being critical, I think anyone that has dated online, learns to be less critical of the people they meet because fact is, you never get what you dream up in your head. So you really have to lessen your standards a little, i.e, if they have all their limbs, can speak good english, read and write ok, and doesn't have turrets, then maybe a second date might not be so bad. LOL!
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