Ya'll have to forgive me, but I have been reading everyone's blog's.... and everyone is doing there own thing and at the same time putting it out there for people to comment on... I can feel that... so here I go... I'm trying to understand what's up with the D.L.(down low)men and D.L. women out there?... I mean come'mon!!!... if you're grown and you have a strange taste for something different... Ain't nobody mad at you!!... just be real with what you want and what you like!!!!!!I recently had a conversation with some folks... it seems that the D.L.'s are increasing in numbers.... and that's a SCAREY thought!!! To know that you're with someone who.... is no.1 open minded(there's nothing wrong with that!)and who..no.2 will go both ways(men and females!) keep those thoughts and feelings hidden... No. 3 will continue to pursue those activities and NO.4!!! will have and outside relationship... for years... without you ever imagining or knowing is just plain WRONG!!!!!it seems that the D.L.'s are increasing in numbers.... and that's a SCAREY thought.... I'm all for freedom to grow and be all that one inspires to be.... but when your actions... can have an adverse reaction to my well being... and you are not informing me of your actions or your in hiding because your feel you can't come out... for what ever reason!!! I have a problem with that! Now yes there is a chance that we will be breaking up... but... I feel that's a lot better then me having to cold do you in a real bad way because you gave me aids or some STD!!!! I don't know ya'll.. I hear every one talking about everything else... but no one has touched on this subject yet.. and right now I would just like to get some feed back.... because it's happening today... and there out there... and nobodies talking about it!... Oh.. and by the way ..if you don't know what a Down Low brother or Sister is... just ask somebody!!!!... and FYI!.. they come in all colors!! Shapes and Sizes.... and if you don't know... now you know! All I'm saying is this... It's happening... and ain't nobody talking 'bout it!! till it slaps you in the face!... and you go running to the clinic trying to get a check~up!... and that's when you say WHOA!!!... That's a true story!
Ya'll have to forgive me, but I have been reading everyone's blog's.... and everyone is doing there own thing and at the same time putting it out there for people to comment on... I can feel that... so here I go... I'm trying to understand what's up with the D.L.(down low)men and D.L. women out there?... I mean come'mon!!!... if you're grown and you have a strange taste for something different... Ain't nobody mad at you!!... just be real with what you want and what you like!!!!!!I recently had a conversation with some folks... it seems that the D.L.'s are increasing in numbers.... and that's a SCAREY thought!!! To know that you're with someone who.... is no.1 open minded(there's nothing wrong with that!)and who..no.2 will go both ways(men and females!) keep those thoughts and feelings hidden... No. 3 will continue to pursue those activities and NO.4!!! will have and outside relationship... for years... without you ever imagining or knowing is just plain WRONG!!!!!it seems that the D.L.'s are increasing in numbers.... and that's a SCAREY thought.... I'm all for freedom to grow and be all that one inspires to be.... but when your actions... can have an adverse reaction to my well being... and you are not informing me of your actions or your in hiding because your feel you can't come out... for what ever reason!!! I have a problem with that! Now yes there is a chance that we will be breaking up... but... I feel that's a lot better then me having to cold do you in a real bad way because you gave me aids or some STD!!!! I don't know ya'll.. I hear every one talking about everything else... but no one has touched on this subject yet.. and right now I would just like to get some feed back.... because it's happening today... and there out there... and nobodies talking about it!... Oh.. and by the way ..if you don't know what a Down Low brother or Sister is... just ask somebody!!!!... and FYI!.. they come in all colors!! Shapes and Sizes.... and if you don't know... now you know! All I'm saying is this... It's happening... and ain't nobody talking 'bout it!! till it slaps you in the face!... and you go running to the clinic trying to get a check~up!... and that's when you say WHOA!!!... That's a true story!
I'm trying to understand what's up with the D.L.(down low)men and D.L. women out there?
definitely not a new event.... it has been an occurrence over centuries if not since the beginning of mankind... the DL as you refer it has always been a mano a mano setup..... and nooooooooo, i do NOT know by personal experience....has assumed many different names and terms ...on the male side ..... same secs....gay... bi....the newest is only a few days old.... thank you larry craig.... "toe tappers"... shake 'hands with george 'wham' michael and paul 'pee wee herman' reubans.... the very late rock hudson... taste the forbidden fruit mentality.... if i can have anything i want... then let me have what i'm not supposed to..... so the next time you see a vintage fred astaire clickin' his heels and tappin' those toes.... you could say he set the tempo.......
I'm trying to understand what's up with the D.L.(down low)men and D.L. women out there?
definitely not a new event.... it has been an occurrence over centuries if not since the beginning of mankind... the DL as you refer it has always been a mano a mano setup..... and nooooooooo, i do NOT know by personal experience....has assumed many different names and terms ...on the male side ..... same secs....gay... bi....the newest is only a few days old.... thank you larry craig.... "toe tappers"... shake 'hands with george 'wham' michael and paul 'pee wee herman' reubans.... the very late rock hudson... taste the forbidden fruit mentality.... if i can have anything i want... then let me have what i'm not supposed to..... so the next time you see a vintage fred astaire clickin' his heels and tappin' those toes.... you could say he set the tempo.......
Re:RedQueen5 write: Which down low are you talking about? The downlow where a straight man likes sex with men on the side?
ain't straight no more if he's doin' that...... on the side.. in the back.... up front.....underneath... that's almost as good as being a little pregnant...... hmmmm good chess move.... knight to king's bishop.....knight takes king's bishop.....MATE...!!!
Re:RedQueen5 write: Which down low are you talking about? The downlow where a straight man likes sex with men on the side?
ain't straight no more if he's doin' that...... on the side.. in the back.... up front.....underneath... that's almost as good as being a little pregnant...... hmmmm good chess move.... knight to king's bishop.....knight takes king's bishop.....MATE...!!!
Rumple.... My Brother like no other... you are sooo... off the chain that it does take a rocket scientist to understand some of the things that you say some times.., and yes I am laughing my arse off!!!... that's a wonderful come back!... and it's a true story... damn you got me dying laughing!
Rumple.... My Brother like no other... you are sooo... off the chain that it does take a rocket scientist to understand some of the things that you say some times.., and yes I am laughing my arse off!!!... that's a wonderful come back!... and it's a true story... damn you got me dying laughing!
McG.. this anecdote's for you... absolutely true story.... may it bring a chuckle....
was checking out at the local Super food store when i heard my name called out.... turned around and saw a couple i haven't seen in 20 yrs...she was even prettier and looked younger.... he was bald... come to find out someone i had been seeing then and had lost touch with over 15 years had been asking about me the same time thoughts of her had been passing through my own mind.... was told she was seeing someone, but might be on the edge of a termination..... needless to say less than 2 hours later my phone rang and it was her and 'ketchup' time...... she had been living in the tampa bay, fl area but just moved to no. lauderdale.... sonofagun..... what a coincidence.... headed there in a week.... got there and had the time to stop in to see her at a restaurant she was working at.... BF was the guitar player in the after dinner band.... cool... nothing like instant jealousy...... he sits down with us on break while we're coming up to the present and announces that his ex-wife is coming into town while i'm there and 'strongly' suggests that he fixes me up with her and maybe we could all go out together....right... ME: no problem.... fix me up with her.... but 2 things i should make clear before you do.... HE: oh...??? what's that? ME: 1. just don't get upset if your ex and i hit it off and we get hot an' heavy....... HE: not a problem... (smiling).. what's number 2...??? ME: just wanna make sure you don't have a problem if i start yelling your name out in the middle of the night with her.....
i thought my reunion friend was gonna have an aneurysm and shoot her drink out of her nasal passages.... and he looked like a deer in the middle of the road that just got hit with the high beams..... and simultaneously when i dropped that line i turned my head to order another drink..... shoulda seen the look on his face........lol... fear factor.... she couldn't stop laughing...... told me later on i totally destroyed him......
McG.. this anecdote's for you... absolutely true story.... may it bring a chuckle....
was checking out at the local Super food store when i heard my name called out.... turned around and saw a couple i haven't seen in 20 yrs...she was even prettier and looked younger.... he was bald... come to find out someone i had been seeing then and had lost touch with over 15 years had been asking about me the same time thoughts of her had been passing through my own mind.... was told she was seeing someone, but might be on the edge of a termination.....
needless to say less than 2 hours later my phone rang and it was her and 'ketchup' time...... she had been living in the tampa bay, fl area but just moved to no. lauderdale.... sonofagun..... what a coincidence.... headed there in a week....
got there and had the time to stop in to see her at a restaurant she was working at.... BF was the guitar player in the after dinner band.... cool... nothing like instant jealousy......
he sits down with us on break while we're coming up to the present and announces that his ex-wife is coming into town while i'm there and 'strongly' suggests that he fixes me up with her and maybe we could all go out together....right...
ME: no problem.... fix me up with her.... but 2 things i should make clear before you do....
HE: oh...??? what's that?
ME: 1. just don't get upset if your ex and i hit it off and we get hot an' heavy.......
HE: not a problem... (smiling).. what's number 2...???
ME: just wanna make sure you don't have a problem if i start yelling your name out in the middle of the night with her.....
i thought my reunion friend was gonna have an aneurysm and shoot her drink out of her nasal passages.... and he looked like a deer in the middle of the road that just got hit with the high beams.....
and simultaneously when i dropped that line i turned my head to order another drink.....
shoulda seen the look on his face........lol... fear factor.... she couldn't stop laughing...... told me later on i totally destroyed him......
I don't know ya'll but I think the PTB's just killed my reply... don't know why but I will try this again....Michell... I'm feeling you on that... and when you do that... you leave yourself more room to find the love that you're wanting and that he has for you... but at the same time..? Anewworld, just so you know... the first part of your comment really had me laughing... bless you and thank you for those sweet thoughts... and just so you know... d.l.'s can get pass the detective too! I mean just think about it.. your man tells you he's going over to his home boys house on Sunday's to watch the game or play a couple of games of chess or whatever... and he does... go over there... you follow him... you saw no ladies come or go... you sit outside and wait till he leaves and you begin to feel like such a fool for not trusting him... yet while you were sitting outside you have no real idea what's going on inside... and to top it off you know that they've been friends for like 10,15,18 years... all I'm saying is that from what I hear... it's happening!.... Arsenal... I think you have made a very valid point...and I feel your comment is real.. thank you sir!... Johniejr3rd... (off subject) yeah I've been watching Vick... but Bradley's got the numbers ... but as they say it ain't over till the lady sings.... and all is still good with me for now bro' thanks for asking ... now back to my topic... I see in your comment that at least she was being honest and truthful... there's no accountability for someone's actions before they meet you... all I'm saying is that if you're gonna be/like to be a lil freaky in the things that you like to do... don't hide it... go for it... but you should also give your mate/partner the choice to decide if I'm cool with it or not...pretending to be an upstanding loving husband/wife ...
I don't know ya'll but I think the PTB's just killed my reply... don't know why but I will try this again....Michell... I'm feeling you on that... and when you do that... you leave yourself more room to find the love that you're wanting and that he has for you... but at the same time..?
Anewworld, just so you know... the first part of your comment really had me laughing... bless you and thank you for those sweet thoughts... and just so you know... d.l.'s can get pass the detective too! I mean just think about it.. your man tells you he's going over to his home boys house on Sunday's to watch the game or play a couple of games of chess or whatever... and he does... go over there... you follow him... you saw no ladies come or go... you sit outside and wait till he leaves and you begin to feel like such a fool for not trusting him... yet while you were sitting outside you have no real idea what's going on inside... and to top it off you know that they've been friends for like 10,15,18 years... all I'm saying is that from what I hear... it's happening!.... Arsenal... I think you have made a very valid point...and I feel your comment is real.. thank you sir!... Johniejr3rd... (off subject) yeah I've been watching Vick... but Bradley's got the numbers ... but as they say it ain't over till the lady sings.... and all is still good with me for now bro' thanks for asking ... now back to my topic... I see in your comment that at least she was being honest and truthful... there's no accountability for someone's actions before they meet you... all I'm saying is that if you're gonna be/like to be a lil freaky in the things that you like to do... don't hide it... go for it... but you should also give your mate/partner the choice to decide if I'm cool with it or not...pretending to be an upstanding loving husband/wife ...
Hey MC....thanks for the good words,as usual you are the gentleman.........regarding my posting..lol...I didn't realize it was an older blog until I after I sent my last post,shows you how oblivious I can be...lol anyway...and I forgot about the censors so my post was not complete.......I'm appalled at how many people will have unprotected with other people while they are supposedly in a monogamous relationship and lie to their partner....hope this time it won't get censored...lol
Hey MC....thanks for the good words,as usual you are the gentleman.........regarding my posting..lol...I didn't realize it was an older blog until I after I sent my last post,shows you how oblivious I can be...lol anyway...and I forgot about the censors so my post was not complete.......I'm appalled at how many people will have unprotected with other people while they are supposedly in a monogamous relationship and lie to their partner....hope this time it won't get censored...lol
Good to see you Mcguyverguy, hope all is good bro...(off subject) have you seen Mike Vick lately...we might be back...lol
Now to the blog. At first thought I agreed with you. But I dated a woman who I love to this day, that had been with women b4 me. She told me after I was joking that she liked some lady on t.v and would get with her too. The pause in her answer lead to my next question. Have you ever been with a woman and it was yes. Now I was already in love, so what now? And that leads me to my second thought...
Besides health issues, if you really truly love someone unconditionally and they are your soul mate would there past matter. What if they were a thief b4, or a liar, or maybe even a freak? But now they are the perfect match for you and they are totally committed to you... Is this now a moral issue or a trust issue or both? Musiq wrote in one of his songs: "I don't care if you were a prostitute and if you did every man that you ever knew so long as it was me and you." When I heard this I thought that was real love...but could I have said that and meant it...
Well I feel cheating is cheating, you need love, trust, and honesty in any relationship for it to work, so if that was in the past and will stay in the past... Then it's behind us and lets look toward the future. I think we need to really look at that word love...Because anything could happen lose a body part, become terminally ill, we would hope that loved one would be by our side through it all right?
Good to see you Mcguyverguy, hope all is good bro...(off subject) have you seen Mike Vick lately...we might be back...lol
Now to the blog. At first thought I agreed with you. But I dated a woman who I love to this day, that had been with women b4 me. She told me after I was joking that she liked some lady on t.v and would get with her too. The pause in her answer lead to my next question. Have you ever been with a woman and it was yes. Now I was already in love, so what now? And that leads me to my second thought...
Besides health issues, if you really truly love someone unconditionally and they are your soul mate would there past matter. What if they were a thief b4, or a liar, or maybe even a freak? But now they are the perfect match for you and they are totally committed to you... Is this now a moral issue or a trust issue or both?
Musiq wrote in one of his songs: "I don't care if you were a prostitute and if you did every man that you ever knew so long as it was me and you."
When I heard this I thought that was real love...but could I have said that and meant it...
Well I feel cheating is cheating, you need love, trust, and honesty in any relationship for it to work, so if that was in the past and will stay in the past... Then it's behind us and lets look toward the future. I think we need to really look at that word love...Because anything could happen lose a body part, become terminally ill, we would hope that loved one would be by our side through it all right?
My female friends are very worried about it and I used to think it had nothing to do with me since I wasn't gay. Then I started hearing of women who had ex bf's on the down low or back from prison with a virus and they could pass it on to me. I am always 'careful' but things can happen. Its a big problem and the only way around it is to take appropriate measures (partners tested, condoms and common sense).
My female friends are very worried about it and I used to think it had nothing to do with me since I wasn't gay. Then I started hearing of women who had ex bf's on the down low or back from prison with a virus and they could pass it on to me. I am always 'careful' but things can happen. Its a big problem and the only way around it is to take appropriate measures (partners tested, condoms and common sense).
I'm so happy to see you running around the hallways! Instead of hall monitor, can we annoint your our truth monitor? Before anyone can post, they'd have to get a pass from you AFTER you've determined that they're telling the truth. Your BS meter seems to be impeccable.
I always think when I meet someone that I have to make sure that he's not crazy. Now you've reminded me to try to determine if he's D.L. too. Geez - is anyone out there in the private detecting biz? You'll probably make some serious cash... LOL
Hi McG,
I'm so happy to see you running around the hallways! Instead of hall monitor, can we annoint your our truth monitor? Before anyone can post, they'd have to get a pass from you AFTER you've determined that they're telling the truth. Your BS meter seems to be impeccable.
I always think when I meet someone that I have to make sure that he's not crazy. Now you've reminded me to try to determine if he's D.L. too. Geez - is anyone out there in the private detecting biz? You'll probably make some serious cash... LOL
I've tried to keep to myself for this past couple of weeks just trying to keep my head up and hold on... I'm doing fine with that... every once in a while I catch myself slipping... but I quickly get a grip and before you kow it I'm back on my feet again... First I'd like to say... Mz.MeSweetpea... it is nice to see your face!... and I do understand!... Mz.Islanddancer... you got me laughing right now because I really thought for a minute that I was the only one on this website that went back to the oldies and brought them back to life!... I love doing that!!!... I to have had to do the same as you and Kash!... just read and post... it's kinda~!...LOL!.. I've been reading your comments and I thank you truly for your response here!... I see you and you are a very beautiful woman... I wish you much love and joy in your many days ahead!... and yeah!.... LOL!.. that's the truth!
I've tried to keep to myself for this past couple of weeks just trying to keep my head up and hold on... I'm doing fine with that... every once in a while I catch myself slipping... but I quickly get a grip and before you kow it I'm back on my feet again... First I'd like to say... Mz.MeSweetpea... it is nice to see your face!... and I do understand!... Mz.Islanddancer... you got me laughing right now because I really thought for a minute that I was the only one on this website that went back to the oldies and brought them back to life!... I love doing that!!!... I to have had to do the same as you and Kash!... just read and post... it's kinda~!...LOL!.. I've been reading your comments and I thank you truly for your response here!... I see you and you are a very beautiful woman... I wish you much love and joy in your many days ahead!... and yeah!.... LOL!.. that's the truth!
MC...I too am appalled at the cavalier attitude many people have towards with multiple partners and then lying about it....I'm with you Kash, I have chosen to just read and post,I value my health and life.
MC...I too am appalled at the cavalier attitude many people have towards with multiple partners and then lying about it....I'm with you Kash, I have chosen to just read and post,I value my health and life.
WHEN I LOOKED AT YOUR PICTURE IN THE WHITE TURTLENECK, I THOUGHT YOU LOOKED GAY. THAT PICTURE DOES YOU NO JUSTICE. ALL THE OTHER PICTURES WERE MUCH BETTER.
WHEN I LOOKED AT YOUR PICTURE IN THE WHITE TURTLENECK, I THOUGHT YOU LOOKED GAY. THAT PICTURE DOES YOU NO JUSTICE. ALL THE OTHER PICTURES WERE MUCH BETTER.
I have got to thank you for the spotlight on that subject. I don't care what you do in your bedroom unless you plan on coming to mine and please believe you must keep it real with me. My oldest brother was 25 when he past away from AIDS so I don't play. If you feel that there is a part of your self that you have to hide, then don't share your self with anyone, you can't be honest with anyone unless your honest with your self. If it's not in you, you won't even have a need to "experiment". Thats real!
I have got to thank you for the spotlight on that subject. I don't care what you do in your bedroom unless you plan on coming to mine and please believe you must keep it real with me. My oldest brother was 25 when he past away from AIDS so I don't play. If you feel that there is a part of your self that you have to hide, then don't share your self with anyone, you can't be honest with anyone unless your honest with your self. If it's not in you, you won't even have a need to "experiment". Thats real!
hi there. It is scary what's out there. And when it's online, if they met YOU online, I figure they contacted others as well. Not eveyone meets the first person they contact or contacts them. I think we all have some online horrer story. I fear it will only get worse, so I usually just blog or post now. It's just too hard to know if people are who they say they are.
hi there. It is scary what's out there. And when it's online, if they met YOU online, I figure they contacted others as well. Not eveyone meets the first person they contact or contacts them. I think we all have some online horrer story. I fear it will only get worse, so I usually just blog or post now. It's just too hard to know if people are who they say they are.
So,you have noticed this also?...I was in a long distance relationship with this man for three years. We lived 800 miles away from each. Nevertheless, we talked every day. I decided to make a surprise visit. Everything seemed to be fine until I walked in on a phone conversation between him and who I thought was a female. The person on the other end of the phone was so upset, that I could hear the railings clear accross the room. I heard my guy say "I did not know she was coming! She just showed up! I know you usually come by on fridays..." Well, I asked him if he were talking to a woman. Surprised to see me standing next to him, he stated "No. This is my son." And then he handed me the phone. The person on the other end started yelling at me, "What?!I can't talk to my father?" "Look", I retorted. "I don't know who you are, but you're sure as hell not his son!" I knew this son well enough to know he would nerver respond to me in this fashion. Besides, handing me the phone was obviously for the benifit of the guy on the phone, and not mine. My friend quickly dummied up on me after the phone was hung up. Needless to say, the rest of the visit was a total disaster. I definitely couldn't get my groove on! End of story. If you suspect your partner of cheating, nowadays you can't take for granted that it is with someone of the opposite sex. It is very difficult to find authentic people nowadays. You have to be aware and careful of the games people are playing.
So,you have noticed this also?...I was in a long distance relationship with this man for three years. We lived 800 miles away from each. Nevertheless, we talked every day. I decided to make a surprise visit. Everything seemed to be fine until I walked in on a phone conversation between him and who I thought was a female. The person on the other end of the phone was so upset, that I could hear the railings clear accross the room. I heard my guy say "I did not know she was coming! She just showed up! I know you usually come by on fridays..." Well, I asked him if he were talking to a woman. Surprised to see me standing next to him, he stated "No. This is my son." And then he handed me the phone. The person on the other end started yelling at me, "What?!I can't talk to my father?"
"Look", I retorted. "I don't know who you are, but you're sure as hell not his son!" I knew this son well enough to know he would nerver respond to me in this fashion. Besides, handing me the phone was obviously for the benifit of the guy on the phone, and not mine. My friend quickly dummied up on me after the phone was hung up. Needless to say, the rest of the visit was a total disaster. I definitely couldn't get my groove on! End of story. If you suspect your partner of cheating, nowadays you can't take for granted that it is with someone of the opposite sex. It is very difficult to find authentic people nowadays. You have to be aware and careful of the games people are playing.
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