I'm sometimes taken aback by emails I receive from a small handful of men. Why? It's the use of the word "drama" that has me stumped.
I don't know what they mean by it, and I ask for clarification if the email doesn't seem too hostile. Yet, I figure if the guy has to mention the word - he still has his own issues to resolve.
Why do I say that? Well, we obviously don't know one another. There's conflict within and without every person and relationship. Making conditions about a generic thing such as "drama" is like asking for life to be free of stress. That only happens when one is dead.
So I'd suggest people do this: get to know someone first, then you can figure out if there is "drama" or not.
I know people who do have issues, but it doesn't mean his / her heart isn't in the right place. Maybe you can be that someone to make their life better. Isn't that what a good relationship should be all about?
I'm sometimes taken aback by emails I receive from a small handful of men. Why? It's the use of the word "drama" that has me stumped.
I don't know what they mean by it, and I ask for clarification if the email doesn't seem too hostile. Yet, I figure if the guy has to mention the word - he still has his own issues to resolve.
Why do I say that? Well, we obviously don't know one another. There's conflict within and without every person and relationship. Making conditions about a generic thing such as "drama" is like asking for life to be free of stress. That only happens when one is dead.
So I'd suggest people do this: get to know someone first, then you can figure out if there is "drama" or not.
I know people who do have issues, but it doesn't mean his / her heart isn't in the right place. Maybe you can be that someone to make their life better. Isn't that what a good relationship should be all about?
It seems to me that the idea of drama varies from country to country. I was born in Brazil, and both parents are half Italian,half Spaniard, and in Latin countries ( not Latin America only),drama is almost like a ''hobby'',Italians make their own dramas into Operas, LOL!! Some choose the opera-buffa others the tragedies , Aida, Tosca, etc. All dramas. Spanish live a permanent drama as they argue over any tiny thing one can imagine ( and there is NO prejudice here, but observation only).
The idea Americans bring of drama are quite different from the countries I mentioned and I am sure it goes on and on. Maybe there are others who have a similar view.
It seems to me that the idea of drama varies from country to country.
I was born in Brazil, and both parents are half Italian,half Spaniard, and in Latin countries ( not Latin America only),drama is almost like a ''hobby'',Italians make their own dramas into Operas, LOL!! Some choose the opera-buffa others the tragedies , Aida, Tosca, etc. All dramas.
Spanish live a permanent drama as they argue over any tiny thing one can imagine ( and there is NO prejudice here, but observation only).
The idea Americans bring of drama are quite different from the countries I mentioned and I am sure it goes on and on. Maybe there are others who have a similar view.
Vicky, I am afraid that it will be really hard for you to find your man. My experience is that if a guy is about 40 and has never been married, he is not likely to do it. If he ever decide to marry then it would be a girl much younger than him. But I really wish you a good luck in your search, your view upon the marriage is close to mine, but I put a strong accent on love, if there is love between you and your man you will love his children as well.
Vicky, I am afraid that it will be really hard for you to find your man. My experience is that if a guy is about 40 and has never been married, he is not likely to do it. If he ever decide to marry then it would be a girl much younger than him.
But I really wish you a good luck in your search, your view upon the marriage is close to mine, but I put a strong accent on love, if there is love between you and your man you will love his children as well.
I don't know about the men you have heard from and /or how they define the term "drama" ... However, I am very clear in stating in my profile that I am only interested in an exclusive relationship with a man who is not eternally bound to another woman by virtue of the fact that he chose to have a child and / or children with her. To me any interference from a previous relationship (unless it is a member of my significant other's family and by family I mean a blood relative and not a child) is unnecessary drama. I simply cannot abide it. Believe it or not, there are still a few of us dinosaurs out here who actually believe that kids should only be born in wedlock, that marriage is a one-time covenant for life including God, and that the traditional nuclear family is the most beautiful, wonderful and worthwhile thing in the world. When I say that I don't want drama, of course I know we will have our own issues because life does bring challenge, trials and upheaval. Therefore, I am willing to respect and take care of a man's mom, sisters, cousins, nieces, aunts and even sister-in-laws but I refuse to ever be in the same room with some woman with whom my man had a child, much less babysit her children. I can give better and, therefore, I deserve to get better. I have made some hard choices and I have waited for the right man. For me the right man is someone who was smart enough to wait for me, to choose to marry only once and for life, and to have ALL of his children wanted and in wedlock. If you feel differently then that is your perogative and it is also probably what most people consider to be unwanted ... "drama"
I don't know about the men you have heard from and /or how they define the term "drama" ... However, I am very clear in stating in my profile that I am only interested in an exclusive relationship with a man who is not eternally bound to another woman by virtue of the fact that he chose to have a child and / or children with her. To me any interference from a previous relationship (unless it is a member of my significant other's family and by family I mean a blood relative and not a child) is unnecessary drama. I simply cannot abide it. Believe it or not, there are still a few of us dinosaurs out here who actually believe that kids should only be born in wedlock, that marriage is a one-time covenant for life including God, and that the traditional nuclear family is the most beautiful, wonderful and worthwhile thing in the world. When I say that I don't want drama, of course I know we will have our own issues because life does bring challenge, trials and upheaval. Therefore, I am willing to respect and take care of a man's mom, sisters, cousins, nieces, aunts and even sister-in-laws but I refuse to ever be in the same room with some woman with whom my man had a child, much less babysit her children. I can give better and, therefore, I deserve to get better. I have made some hard choices and I have waited for the right man. For me the right man is someone who was smart enough to wait for me, to choose to marry only once and for life, and to have ALL of his children wanted and in wedlock. If you feel differently then that is your perogative and it is also probably what most people consider to be unwanted ... "drama"
When I was in Greece this summer I noticed a sign on the road it was the way to Drama... I said to my daughter there is a town called my name... :-) Unfortunately I didn't take any pictures of Drama, but I share one of ancient Greek city Kavala
When I was in Greece this summer I noticed a sign on the road it was the way to Drama...
I said to my daughter there is a town called my name...
:-)
Unfortunately I didn't take any pictures of Drama, but I share one of ancient Greek city Kavala
TO ANSWER THE QUESTION IN THE WAY IT WAS MEANT TO BE, OK HERE GOES.... NO DRAMA MEANS THAT IF A WOMAN HAS KIDS, WE DON'T MIND THAT PART, WHAT WE DON'T WANT IS TO DATE YOU AND HAVE TO RUN INTO A CRAZY EX OR BABY'S DADDY WHO STILL THINK THAT THEY ARE STILL IN THE PICTURE, WOMEN DON'T WANT TO DEAL WITH THE SAME THING IN REVERSE SO IT SHOULDN'T GET ANYBODY BENT OUT OF SHAPE TO SAY THIS, NOW DOES THIS ANSWER THE QUESTION OR DO YOU NEED MORE??????
TO ANSWER THE QUESTION IN THE WAY IT WAS MEANT TO BE, OK HERE GOES....
NO DRAMA MEANS THAT IF A WOMAN HAS KIDS, WE DON'T MIND THAT PART, WHAT WE DON'T WANT IS TO DATE YOU AND HAVE TO RUN INTO A CRAZY EX OR BABY'S DADDY WHO STILL THINK THAT THEY ARE STILL IN THE PICTURE, WOMEN DON'T WANT TO DEAL WITH THE SAME THING IN REVERSE SO IT SHOULDN'T GET ANYBODY BENT OUT OF SHAPE TO SAY THIS, NOW DOES THIS ANSWER THE QUESTION OR DO YOU NEED MORE??????
That depends on what we/them/people are really talking abt when it comes to use the word "drama" here,never forget that....
Indeed, I haven't forgotten. Perhaps the author of this blog should have defined the word DRAMA(what it means to her) just to make sure that everyone is on the same page.
I'd be willing to bet that many people have a different idea as to the meaning of the word DRAMA, and since the general consensus on this blog portends that this thing called DRAMA is inevevitable and universal(which is debatable)without so much as an agreed upon definition makes this enitire blog a bit POINTLESS in terms of having meaningful "discussions."
I don't believe there are very many people who are looking for perfection(whatever that may be)in relationships, but more harmony and less disharmony.
veronica2007 wrote:
That depends on what we/them/people are really talking abt when it comes to use the word "drama" here,never forget that....
Indeed, I haven't forgotten. Perhaps the author of this blog should have defined the word DRAMA(what it means to her) just to make sure that everyone is on the same page.
I'd be willing to bet that many people have a different idea as to the meaning of the word DRAMA, and since the general consensus on this blog portends that this thing called DRAMA is inevevitable and universal(which is debatable)without so much as an agreed upon definition makes this enitire blog a bit POINTLESS in terms of having meaningful "discussions."
I don't believe there are very many people who are looking for perfection(whatever that may be)in relationships, but more harmony and less disharmony.
rumplestilskin2010 write: ...and what is a "drama queen" then...???
drama king as well.. one who has the need to perpetuate their difficulties/issues on all within hearing range with or without a cell phone.... more than likely with insecurities or needs for attention....
no whine before its time.. itsa tuff job, but somebody's got to do it....
Good definition rumple. Drama is simply issues, personal problems(baggage), etc., that people carry on board the airplane of LIFE. Furthermore, such people almost always attempt to make their DRAMA yours.
There are some people on this blog who believe that everyone has drama of one kind or another. I don't believe that this is true. At least, not for everyone.
Believe it or not, there are real people out there(men and women) who have got their lives in order, who are stable MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, FINANCIALLY with no DRAMA.
I will admit this is rare, and you will have to be patient and date a lot of people before finding such a person, but they are out there. And there are enough of them to make the search worthwhile. DON'T SETTLE!
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rumplestilskin2010 write: ...and what is a "drama queen" then...???
drama king as well.. one who has the need to perpetuate their difficulties/issues on all within hearing range with or without a cell phone.... more than likely with insecurities or needs for attention....
no whine before its time.. itsa tuff job, but somebody's got to do it....
Good definition rumple. Drama is simply issues, personal problems(baggage), etc., that people carry on board the airplane of LIFE. Furthermore, such people almost always attempt to make their DRAMA yours.
There are some people on this blog who believe that everyone has drama of one kind or another. I don't believe that this is true. At least, not for everyone.
Believe it or not, there are real people out there(men and women) who have got their lives in order, who are stable MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY, FINANCIALLY with no DRAMA.
I will admit this is rare, and you will have to be patient and date a lot of people before finding such a person, but they are out there. And there are enough of them to make the search worthwhile. DON'T SETTLE!
drama king as well.. one who has the need to perpetuate their difficulties/issues on all within hearing range with or without a cell phone.... more than likely with insecurities or needs for attention....
no whine before its time.. itsa tuff job, but somebody's got to do it....
...and what is a "drama queen" then...???
drama king as well.. one who has the need to perpetuate their difficulties/issues on all within hearing range with or without a cell phone.... more than likely with insecurities or needs for attention....
no whine before its time.. itsa tuff job, but somebody's got to do it....
You are so right! There is not such thing as a relationship with no drama. First of all that is very unrealistic not unless they find a partner in a vegetative state. Relationships all have growing pains and everything is never going to be good all the time. I would be concerned about dating someone that is looking for unrealistic expectations.
You are so right! There is not such thing as a relationship with no drama. First of all that is very unrealistic not unless they find a partner in a vegetative state. Relationships all have growing pains and everything is never going to be good all the time. I would be concerned about dating someone that is looking for unrealistic expectations.
the shoe being on my foot, it would raise a yellow flag... and put on the thicker skin costume... dunno if the alarm button should be hit, but could run it like a poker hand knowing he's holding a 'drama' card... NOW...!!! if the drama card is part of his hand then he could be holding your heart... not the kind of hand to win... so get ready to fold or be holding a good suit of clubs... and of all things, don't go all in... not a good hand when the drama card is wild...stakes are usually higher too...
then again... HIS last experience coulda been a drama queen and hasn't recovered..... still wouldn't go all in....
Thanks for saying that, I suspected as much...
the shoe being on my foot, it would raise a yellow flag... and put on the thicker skin costume... dunno if the alarm button should be hit, but could run it like a poker hand knowing he's holding a 'drama' card... NOW...!!! if the drama card is part of his hand then he could be holding your heart... not the kind of hand to win... so get ready to fold or be holding a good suit of clubs... and of all things, don't go all in... not a good hand when the drama card is wild...stakes are usually higher too...
then again... HIS last experience coulda been a drama queen and hasn't recovered..... still wouldn't go all in....
I don't know what they mean by it, and I ask for clarification if the email doesn't seem too hostile. Yet, I figure if the guy has to mention the word - he still has his own issues to resolve.
>>>t's the use of the word "drama" that has me stumped.<<< lemme see if i can help..... ask him to clarify 'drama'... are we looking at a soap opera, whodunnit, murder/mystery, mini-series, trilogy, melodrama, medical, low budget, color or black & white, single performance, ensemble or duet...???
FFT, devil's advocate time.... role play the other side... he pro'ly duzzint wanna be held accountable for his own actions once he feels he's getting into deep like..... or near it.... lol... a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do....
I don't know what they mean by it, and I ask for clarification if the email doesn't seem too hostile. Yet, I figure if the guy has to mention the word - he still has his own issues to resolve.
>>>t's the use of the word "drama" that has me stumped.<<< lemme see if i can help..... ask him to clarify 'drama'... are we looking at a soap opera, whodunnit, murder/mystery, mini-series, trilogy, melodrama, medical, low budget, color or black & white, single performance, ensemble or duet...???
FFT, devil's advocate time.... role play the other side... he pro'ly duzzint wanna be held accountable for his own actions once he feels he's getting into deep like..... or near it.... lol... a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do....
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