I find myself in this predicament and I'm asking myself is he interested in me or not. This is the deal; I met this guy 3 weeks ago (he's my optometrist) and he was very polite we laughed and talked about non professional stuff. For instance he mentioned that I looked a lot younger than I was, and other stuff that I can't seem to recall right now. Then last Sat. I had a follow up with him and we chatted about some more inconsequential stuff, ok well yesterday (the 3rd Sat.) my final appt. with him he asked me how tall I was (by the way I'm 5ft 2in tall) and he commented that I seemed taller than that...he by the way is 6ft 4in. (wow) he also mentioned that he "once" had a girfriend that was 5,2 and it hurt his back to kiss her...lol but in my mind it already sounds as if he doesn't have an issue with vertically challenged (thats what I call myself...lol) women, also he asked me out the blue what my ethnicity was (he's a WM by the way..not that it should matter though) which I told him. He appeared surprised to know that I was a mixture of Jamaican/Native American/African American...I guess he doesn't see this breed that often...lol. Anyway, he also told me about his ancestry and how he could trace his lineage back to the Mayflower...ok so far a lot of information has gone back and forth between us in the span of 3 eye dr. appts. could he interested in me or was he just making casual conversation? Do people talk this much if they're not interested. I've been out of the dating scene for a while now (my choice) but I find myself attracted to him...he's not model material, he's an average guy that is appealing to me more and more. After this upcoming Sat. (last appt.) I will have no reason to visit the office except for yearly eye exams so will have no reason to accidentally bump into him. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? How do I let him know that I'm interested without coming off as Miss. Agressiva????
I find myself in this predicament and I'm asking myself is he interested in me or not. This is the deal; I met this guy 3 weeks ago (he's my optometrist) and he was very polite we laughed and talked about non professional stuff. For instance he mentioned that I looked a lot younger than I was, and other stuff that I can't seem to recall right now. Then last Sat. I had a follow up with him and we chatted about some more inconsequential stuff, ok well yesterday (the 3rd Sat.) my final appt. with him he asked me how tall I was (by the way I'm 5ft 2in tall) and he commented that I seemed taller than that...he by the way is 6ft 4in. (wow) he also mentioned that he "once" had a girfriend that was 5,2 and it hurt his back to kiss her...lol but in my mind it already sounds as if he doesn't have an issue with vertically challenged (thats what I call myself...lol) women, also he asked me out the blue what my ethnicity was (he's a WM by the way..not that it should matter though) which I told him. He appeared surprised to know that I was a mixture of Jamaican/Native American/African American...I guess he doesn't see this breed that often...lol. Anyway, he also told me about his ancestry and how he could trace his lineage back to the Mayflower...ok so far a lot of information has gone back and forth between us in the span of 3 eye dr. appts. could he interested in me or was he just making casual conversation? Do people talk this much if they're not interested. I've been out of the dating scene for a while now (my choice) but I find myself attracted to him...he's not model material, he's an average guy that is appealing to me more and more. After this upcoming Sat. (last appt.) I will have no reason to visit the office except for yearly eye exams so will have no reason to accidentally bump into him. WHAT SHOULD I DO???? How do I let him know that I'm interested without coming off as Miss. Agressiva????
Casper 2014 my advice may be to late but here it is - I read all the comments and they are all very good. My advise is don't try to read a man's mind. You'll only trip, tall and bump your head. I'd give that same advise to men as well. Listen to what they say and then judge their actions. You know as well as I do "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus". Chemistry is critical. If you feel "it" you need to create a catalyst, that is, something that will cause a change. Twinzmom and Travelchick had the right idea. Because of this is a professional situation you'll need to be proactive. Ask him if he would be interested in setting up an appointment outside to the office. Life is about living, you don't have to be aggresive but you do have to be proactive and take the risk. One more thing, once you've opened the door and invited him out do not flirt with him. At this point he already knows you're intersted so let him show you that he is interested, because it sounds you're not sure if he is interested in you or just making small talk. Remember you're on a fact finding mission. GOOD LUCK
Casper 2014 my advice may be to late but here it is - I read all the comments and they are all very good. My advise is don't try to read a man's mind. You'll only trip, tall and bump your head. I'd give that same advise to men as well. Listen to what they say and then judge their actions. You know as well as I do "Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus". Chemistry is critical. If you feel "it" you need to create a catalyst, that is, something that will cause a change. Twinzmom and Travelchick had the right idea. Because of this is a professional situation you'll need to be proactive. Ask him if he would be interested in setting up an appointment outside to the office. Life is about living, you don't have to be aggresive but you do have to be proactive and take the risk. One more thing, once you've opened the door and invited him out do not flirt with him. At this point he already knows you're intersted so let him show you that he is interested, because it sounds you're not sure if he is interested in you or just making small talk. Remember you're on a fact finding mission. GOOD LUCK
I'm probably being a prude here, but i've been in these predicaments before - to no avail. He's a guy. Sounds like he's playing a game and you may wind up being played. Clearly he's being flirtatious but has he asked you out? If he's interested, he'll be clear.
I'm probably being a prude here, but i've been in these predicaments before - to no avail. He's a guy. Sounds like he's playing a game and you may wind up being played. Clearly he's being flirtatious but has he asked you out? If he's interested, he'll be clear.
Hi there, I think he is into you but here's the issue, for doctors etc. they have an ethics thing where they are not supposed to ask out/date their patients. The fact that he brought us an ex-girlfriend when talking with you about the height thing means that he was clearly thinking of you in those terms. My best friend from high school ended up marrying her foot doctor so I asked her about your situation. She said you should ask him out for coffee (that's what she did) so that you two can get a chance to talk outside the doctor/patient situation of being in the office. At that point he may ask you out. Also, btw you may have to change eye doctors if you two start seeing each other but heck that would be easy especially if you get a handsome optomitrist boyfriend out of it. Don't be afraid to ask him out for coffee if you keep it light it will not seem agressive at all. Good luck! Let us know how it works out.
Hi there, I think he is into you but here's the issue, for doctors etc. they have an ethics thing where they are not supposed to ask out/date their patients. The fact that he brought us an ex-girlfriend when talking with you about the height thing means that he was clearly thinking of you in those terms. My best friend from high school ended up marrying her foot doctor so I asked her about your situation. She said you should ask him out for coffee (that's what she did) so that you two can get a chance to talk outside the doctor/patient situation of being in the office. At that point he may ask you out. Also, btw you may have to change eye doctors if you two start seeing each other but heck that would be easy especially if you get a handsome optomitrist boyfriend out of it. Don't be afraid to ask him out for coffee if you keep it light it will not seem agressive at all. Good luck! Let us know how it works out.
How did it turn out Ms Casper? btwn you and your eye doctor? You know I have a situation of "he is not into you": I recvd a wink and msg from a cutie last week which I deleted today. He like my profile. We exchange a cpl of msgs; and I shared w/him it will be great if we can build up to a meet. He was like great let's meet soon after work. I was like what No, it is too early let me get to know you btr, I will learn more about you other than you have a cute face. Bc at this moment we are still strangers. Then that was it, he did not send a reply; it has been a week ago. Wtf! it's ashame too bc I thought it could build into something if we both like each other. BONUS: He lives close to me; 20min drive away. AWESOME....... Oh well, he did not send a reply, that does speak volume. It would have interesting to meet someone from here. It is definitely his lost. You know what this could have been my save from Playersville. I don't need low-lifes.
How did it turn out Ms Casper? btwn you and your eye doctor? You know I have a situation of "he is not into you": I recvd a wink and msg from a cutie last week which I deleted today. He like my profile. We exchange a cpl of msgs; and I shared w/him it will be great if we can build up to a meet. He was like great let's meet soon after work. I was like what No, it is too early let me get to know you btr, I will learn more about you other than you have a cute face. Bc at this moment we are still strangers. Then that was it, he did not send a reply; it has been a week ago. Wtf! it's ashame too bc I thought it could build into something if we both like each other. BONUS: He lives close to me; 20min drive away. AWESOME....... Oh well, he did not send a reply, that does speak volume. It would have interesting to meet someone from here. It is definitely his lost. You know what this could have been my save from Playersville. I don't need low-lifes.
I know it sounds like he was saying he liked short girls. But I think that he would ve put a positive spin on it if he was trying to impress you. Instead he said "that he "once" had a girfriend that was 5'2" and it HURT his back to kiss her." You said "...lol but in my mind it already sounds as if he doesn't have an issue with vertically challenged." In my mind he was saying that he tried dating her and among other things( obviously cause they are no longer together) she was too short. I've dated a couple of 6'4" guys and have never been told that being vertically challenged was a problem. In fact they told me that they liked me being sweet and small ----like a piece of candy!! LOL twinzmom had good advice--but tread lightly. Goodluck!!!
I know it sounds like he was saying he liked short girls. But I think that he would ve put a positive spin on it if he was trying to impress you. Instead he said "that he "once" had a girfriend that was 5'2" and it HURT his back to kiss her." You said "...lol but in my mind it already sounds as if he doesn't have an issue with vertically challenged." In my mind he was saying that he tried dating her and among other things( obviously cause they are no longer together) she was too short. I've dated a couple of 6'4" guys and have never been told that being vertically challenged was a problem. In fact they told me that they liked me being sweet and small ----like a piece of candy!! LOL twinzmom had good advice--but tread lightly. Goodluck!!!
I know it sounds like he was saying he liked short girls. But I think that he would ve put a positive spin on it if he was trying to impress you. Instead he said "that he "once" had a girfriend that was 5'2" and it HURT his back to kiss her." You said "...lol but in my mind it already sounds as if he doesn't have an issue with vertically challenged." In my mind he was saying that he tried dating her and among other things( obviously cause they are no longer together) she was too short. I've dated a couple of 6'4" guys and have never been told that being vertically challenged was a problem. In fact they told me that they liked me being sweet and small ----like a piece of candy!! LOL twinzmom had good advice--but tread lightly. Goodluck!!!
I know it sounds like he was saying he liked short girls. But I think that he would ve put a positive spin on it if he was trying to impress you. Instead he said "that he "once" had a girfriend that was 5'2" and it HURT his back to kiss her." You said "...lol but in my mind it already sounds as if he doesn't have an issue with vertically challenged." In my mind he was saying that he tried dating her and among other things( obviously cause they are no longer together) she was too short. I've dated a couple of 6'4" guys and have never been told that being vertically challenged was a problem. In fact they told me that they liked me being sweet and small ----like a piece of candy!! LOL twinzmom had good advice--but tread lightly. Goodluck!!!
I like your advice...think I'll go with that, the worst he can say is no. Thanks...I really was afraid of coming off as too aggressive but this is the 21st century and women can ask too.
I like your advice...think I'll go with that, the worst he can say is no. Thanks...I really was afraid of coming off as too aggressive but this is the 21st century and women can ask too.
He sounds interested. It started off very casual but once he got personal that seems to me to be an open door. At the last appt if he doesnt ask you out. Then you should mention something. You could say something like "would it be unproffessional if i asked to see you again outside the DR office?". Or just do a tad bit more flirting on the next visit.
He sounds interested. It started off very casual but once he got personal that seems to me to be an open door. At the last appt if he doesnt ask you out. Then you should mention something. You could say something like "would it be unproffessional if i asked to see you again outside the DR office?". Or just do a tad bit more flirting on the next visit.
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